TOPIC: New here and strongly considering pmma

@notsureyet82

While some women may prefer a larger unit, they do so with their own anatomy in mind...or sometimes they don\'t. Fortunately, the vagina can adjust in time. I\'m not sure how much attention you pay to foreplay, but you may want to spend more time getting her aroused before actually proceeding with intercourse. Kissing, cunnilingus, maybe even small toys/vibrators to get her more \"receptive.\" Then when you have gotten this far, ease in with your unit to allow her to accommodate it, don\'t try to just \"bang away\" right away.

Good luck.

I already do all of that. Unfortunately I am starting to suspect that maybe she just enjoys having the power/knowledge of my insecurities and takes advantage of them to keep my self esteem suppressed. Last night for instance, she saw me walk through the bedroom in my underwear and commented on how \"amazing my bulging package looked\". I caught her staring at it several times and she made several flirtatious comments. After this went on for a while I made a move and she rolled over and said she wasn\'t in the mood. She pulls that kind of shit all of the time. I think she just likes to fuck with my head. What I don\'t think she realizes is the level of resentment toward her that has been growing inside of me. I am at a loss. I find a way to feel good about myself and she finds a way to ruin it.........story of my life.

notsureyet82 wrote: What I don\'t think she realizes is the level of resentment toward her that has been growing inside of me. I am at a loss. I find a way to feel good about myself and she finds a way to ruin it.........story of my life.

This.

A lasting, loving relationship desperately relies on open honesty & communication. You need to reveal to her how you feel. About her attitude and your growing sentiments. About it all. And bring it up over some dinner, or somewhere where the mood is calm & cordial. Don\'t get defensive or accusatory, even if she does. You have to get to the bottom of this and make amends before the strains become overbearing. I personally doubt it has anything to do with size at all. But only you can figure this out. Good luck.

notsureyet82 wrote: The wife is now starting to bitch about my Girth. Its pissing me off to no end. I literally told her to get off of me mid intercourse last night. First I wasn\'t big enough and now I\'m too big..........frustrating........very very frustrating!!!

I\'m sorry to hear that your wife is having difficulties adapting to the new Girth. My advise to you is be very patient with her, it may take some time for her to adjust.

I believe I mentioned to you a few pages back that I was in that same situation so I understand what you might be going through. You should know that several other members have reported similar issues post enlargement. Maybe we should start a support thread?

I won\'t insult you by offering kindergarten-level advice about how to arouse women. IIRC you posted in my PR that you have been with over 100 women so you clearly know your way around their bodies. I will say that what was helpful to me was to talk with my SO about exactly what she was experiencing. I found out that even when she was fully aroused and wet, the sex was great and she had orgasms she was getting micro tears which made it painful just to pee for a day or two. That and other things she said put things into perspective for me. My concern, understanding and light hearted handling of the situation paid big dividends in other ways.

Be patient with her. If she enjoys sex as much as my SO she might be even more frustrated than you are right now!

First off, thank you very much SO and eqstudent for the kind words and support and I agree that a support thread for this particular issue may be in order. If nothing else it would give guys a great place to vent their frustrations in a constructive way and hopefully relieve some of their anger therefore possibly preventing a confrontation at home.

Now back to the issue at hand. I have concluded that women are full of shit. I know this for sure...........at least in one case lol. She took some organic women\'s libido pills yesterday and when I got home from work last night and she immediately jumped me. After that I went to the gym and had a workout. When I got home she jumped in the shower with me and we did it again. By the way I do not recommend sex, gym, sex. I was so exhausted that I was literally miserable and felt sick for the rest of the evening. That was far too much testosterone depletion for such a short time frame. Back to the point, she said nothing of pain or stretching or any of the crap that she has been complaining about in recent days and this was with no warm up!!!. I can\'t help but conclude that she was just lying about me being too big because she simply wasn\'t in the mood. I explained to her last night that after 3 decades of life I would have assumed (incorrectly) that we are grown up enough to just speak our minds. If your not in the mood just say it. That is perfectly acceptable and only a total Dick (no pun intended) would not respect that, but lying and saying I am too big now just hits my self esteem and plants seeds of doubt and insecurity in my mind. Anyway enough ranting for now. I hope I am not driving you guys nuts with all of my bitching, but oddly enough I find venting my frustrations to a computer to be therapeutic. In conclusion our problem seems to have resolved itself for the moment.

Glad your issues with you wife seem to be resolving.

Is there any chance of any photo updates? 30% sessions are a fairly new thing, so it would be good to get as many photos as possible.

No problem, I will try to get some up today.

Hi...new to the site and Ive been following your thread for some time. I have some questions: Do you still have problems getting erections w/out your wife or porn? How is the sensation compared to pre op currently? Do you get morning wood? Still experiencing pain? I\'m really considering having the surgery within the next 3-5 yrs(currently 24) having only been \"blessed\" with 4.4-4.5 Girth and 5.9-6.2 length. I\'m a pretty good looking guy...girls always tell me I look like a model... it\'s like a cruel joke I\'ve been subjected to with good looks and no Girth. Keep on posting!

Glad you worked through the issue, notsureyet. I was going to comment that it sounded like she was playing some kind of head game but, I\'am far from being an expert on relationships. Does this mean Rd 2 is on hold?

How is the hard ridge, nodules doing, painful? Has it gotten smaller? I\'m very interested in hearing about your progress & the pros & cons of 30%.

Thanks for your post.

Hey notsureyet, I\'m interested in what the name of those \"organic libido pills\" your wife took that got her going

Here are the pictures as Hoddle requested. As you can see I have a gap on the left side mid shaft that needs to be filled in order to make my unit look symmetrical. I am still measuring the same as at the bottom of this post. I cannot get the ridge to show up on an iphone pic and I dont have the USB cord to my camera so until I can get that problem resolved these are all that I have. The other is just a pic of my upper body. Still have a lot of chunk to lose around the mid section and a lot of muscle mass to gain, but the remnants of the old me are starting to show through in the pic lol. I am back in the gym for 2 months after a 2 year break. Its slow starting, but By the time I get finished with my tool I want to be back to 215 lbs @ 7-8% body fat. I am currently 195 lbs at 16-17% body fat.

Consideringsurgery, Your stats are not at all small. You are perfectly normal. I would advise seeking other means to resolve your issues of inadequacy first. Do not jump into a procedure. Take the time and do your homework. Speak to a psychologist about your issues and try to resolve them. If you exhaust every option and still feel like it is something that you have to do then you are probably a good candidate for PE. At that point you will still be taking a risk as the rest of us have, but if it doesn\'t go your way you will at least have the comfort of knowing that you exhausted all other options and didn\'t make an impulsive decision that negatively affected your life forever. To answer your questions I have perfectly normal sensation, I have never been good at getting aroused without assistance. I needed a woman or porn before and now. I do still get morning wood and only experience pain at the ridge or if I pinch the spot where the pmma stops just before the glans. I think it is a great idea that you are planning to wait 3-5 years. That is very responsible of you. At that point there will be much more data on the long term effects of this procedure.

bones, she loves to screw with my head and emotions. It pisses me off to no end, but what to do? As I have said before,\"If they didn\'t have pussy there would be bounties on their heads\". lol Always feel free to chime in with any advice. It will be appreciated. As far as my unit goes, Round 2 is definitely a go. This is for me, not her. If she doesn\'t like it.......oh well. I am not gonna go much bigger, but will have to obtain more girth to fix the dip/gap on the left side of the shaft. You can see what I am taking about in the straight on pic above. I wish I had a hard pic though because it would show that when erect the dip/gap is hardly noticeable. It just looks bad when flaccid. I am still happy with my decision to go with 30%. I am holding steady at a 1\" girth gain. The ridge has not changed at all. It is big, hard, and uncomfortable to the touch. It hurts if squeezed, but hopefully will be fixed during round 2. If it isn\'t fixed I can still live with it without regret. My main concern is filling in the left side of my shaft.

Mr. Bendy, the product is called Steel Libido for women. Here is a link for it:

www.femalelibido.com/steel-libido-for-women/

If that doesn\'t work let me know. It is a green bottle with pink writing. I cannot tell you if the product ACTUALLY works or if it is simply psychological like someone acting drunk after unknowingly drinking non alcoholic beer, but if it gets me laid I guess it really doesn\'t matter. Never under estimate the power of the mind.

Mustang, if I ever meet you I will give you the hat I am wearing in the picture above!!!!

Thanks for the photos.

A lot of it stems from my upbringing and some cruel women I\'ve encountered along the way. But in all honesty, 4.4 Girth is small and maybe they\'re just being real. I\'ve been experimenting on and off with pe for about a year. I have a bathmate, vac Hanger system and have jelqued . The bathmate tends to make things smaller over time and really poorly affects my eq (even with a 5 minute session). Jelqing seems to work but I really have to watch my reps. Sometimes it feels like Jelqing just causes swelling instead of real gains but I haven\'t stuck with it for longer than 2 months bc it has affected morning wood and sensitivity. I have started back with a very simple 150 jelqs every other day with warm up and warm down. The Hanger seems to work but it really doesn\'t help Girth accept base Girth for me. I\'m fine with my length...all I\'d like is Girth. I will continue to experiment with the two methods that seem to work for me, but surgery seems a very feasible route. I am setting aside a little bit of money each month in preparation. Your PMMA results are looking good. Please continue to keep us updated on things and thanks for the informative thread.

Congrats, notsureyet. So far looks like a success story to me. If it were me I could deal with not looking symmetrical. When I do long pumping sessions my unit has a similar look when Flaccid from body fluids collecting at certain areas like under the bottom near my head gland. But, like you its not noticeable when Erect. But, I am concerned about this pain your feeling in the ridge. What makes you think it could be resolved in Rd 2? Did Dr.C present a plan to deal with that?

Man, I\'m really tempted to go for Rd1 ASAP even though its against all logic to take the risk as I\'m pretty average & its been working fine for the woman in my life. But, my issues are like yours, its not really about pleasing woman. Its about me & wanting to be some ideal macho image in my head. I feel like psychologically it would give me that little extra push & make me a little bit more positive & outgoing. & so, the next time my GF says \"Hey for kicks let\'s go to a nude beach in Jamaica\" or go for a \"skinny dip\". I\'m not thinking about Turtling or I need to pump first. Arghh.. Am I screwed up or what?