New1inch wrote: Title pretty much says it all. It\'s kinda hard for me because I kkow I\'m not swinging like a horse so it make it hard for me to be a alpha male or dominant in my relationships which I think makes it hard for me to keep my relationships or even get in one. I\'ve been single for a year now almost with no sex at all and it\'s not by choice. I just don\'t have the Balls to do anything about it because of my lack of size and the fear of showing my Dick. But this spills over into my personal life also, not just romantically. It\'s hard to explain but even in business I feel my Dick size is holding me back from being the alpha and concoring what I want. I really want to get into shape but I always think, what\'s the point? It\'s not like I\'ll be having sex anyway because I can\'t please a woman or she\'ll laugh once she sees the ugly looking small secret I have in my pants. This just consumes my life and wanted to know for any guys who\'s been living longer than me how can I still be the alpha and confidant guy I want to be with this cloud I can\'t/ impossible to fix over my head. I know no one here is shrinks, but I don\'t have the Doe (money) for that.. Lol. I\'m hoping to maybe learn from someone past experience. Thanks.
Either you are dominant by nature or you aren\'t. I suppose you can aspire to be more \"dominant\" per-se, but I think it has more to do with attitude & confidence than it does sheer penis size. I know of a few guys who possess Alpha-minded mentalities in real life, but none of them are classically \"hung,\" (I hang out with guys who are pretty open about their junks).
It\'s easy to associate confidence & penis size, especially on a forum like this, but it really should play a smaller role than we give it credit for. If there are limitations to what you can do with size, move on to attributes that have less limitations, like physical fitness, career, etc. These may do as much, if not more, for your confidence, and in turn may allow you to feel more alpha / dominant in your social & personal life.
Some also subscribe to the notion of \"being a
Dick or asshole\" in a relationship to assert dominance, and I\'m not sure how legit this is. I\'m not a fan of acting such a way, but some girls (not all) are attracted to it.
But to be honest, I\'m no expert on this topic but not being an alpha in the traditional sense doesn\'t make you any less of a man. But if you are hellbent on being more \"alpha\" per-se, I think your strongest card is to resist showing any weakness. Don\'t wear your insecurities on your sleeve, act as if your partner is replaceable (because she really is), and be firm in your decisions on any & all matters. As Mustang so eloquently put in some other post, her job is to please you first, not the other way around. I don\'t normally advocate an asshole-approach but if you are aiming to be something that you aren\'t naturally, you are going to need a big change in attitude.
I\'m sure others with genuine alpha dominant mentalities can chime in.
