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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292000120

I doubt her exes were much bigger, but I will say I do not think you are measuring your Girth right. I can\'t really tell, but 6.1\" usually looks a lot fatter... then again, you have length too - so who knows.

Anyway, regardless of what it actually is, it\'s idiotic for you to consider PMMA anyway because you are FAR above average. I\'m not going to beat a dead horse. Others said what I\'d say. I wish SmallJay didn\'t edit his post, honestly. People with perfect dicks need to be told the facts. Not to mention, I\'ll never be the same after the PMMA disaster I had, ever.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292006695

Restoration wrote: I doubt her exes were much bigger, but I will say I do not think you are measuring your Girth right. I can\'t really tell, but 6.1\" usually looks a lot fatter... then again, you have length too - so who knows.

Anyway, regardless of what it actually is, it\'s idiotic for you to consider PMMA anyway because you are FAR above average. I\'m not going to beat a dead horse. Others said what I\'d say. I wish SmallJay didn\'t edit his post, honestly. People with perfect dicks need to be told the facts. Not to mention, I\'ll never be the same after the PMMA disaster I had, ever.


Restoration, reading your posts and what you went through, was one of my deciding factors for writing. I saw all of the support and was encouraged to post here. I want the truth about it. Not what doctors on sites I\'ve contacted have told me but what is really happening once the procedure is done. What can happen, what to avoid, who to avoid, what mind set I should have. I understand none of you agree with me and say what you will but this is my body, my mind, and how I feel. Yes others are worse, way worse in some cases, off than I am. But that goes for a lot of things in life as my therapist says. I just want to feel adequate. I never feel good. whether its just my weight making things seem off or just my head not allowing me to see things. I dont know. But If what you say is true that my Dick is \"perfect\" then why dont I see it? Why do I spend hours upon hours researching and trying to find ways to feel adequate? why do I look down and hate what I see? Why do I think that I\'ll never be good enough? Am I measuring correctly? Everything I\'ve looked up says I am but then again I second guess myself a lot. I\'ve used rulers, measuring tape, hell even objects to compare. I\'ve had my gf do it to just appease my neurotic tendency and no matter what I still dont feel right!

I just don\'t know anymore. I feel there is a problem, I obsess over it, yet everyone seems to think otherwise

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292007220

You dont see it, the same way my bulimic wife doesnt see her disorder. Alcoholics don\'t see it, drug addicts dont see it, body dysmorphia disorder is no different. I too used to think the same as you. Im much shorter at 6.25 and a bit thinner at 5.85.

I considered myself small. Until I really took a good look at the issue of why I felt that way,I couldn\'t distinguish the forest from the trees so to speak. My perspective was so off as to what a normal Dick was size wise. Porn ruined my idea of \"IDEAL PENIS SIZE\" Somehow if its not shane diesel size its small has gone mainstream. That so rare, well maybe 1 out of 10,000 is that size maybe even smaller percentage, someone correct the math if I am off please.

Lots of gay guys here on PB told me dont worry your johnson is just fine. I am or should say I was struggling with that, a gay guy looking at my pic and saying I am ok. Trust me one member has seen hundreds to thousands and if he says its perfect he knows dicks man.

Im a straight guy and I personally think your Dick is just fine. I wish I had your length, I wouldnt touch it surgery wise. If you want to get a pump and get a traction device and try to get some gains without surgery no matter how invasive or not, the possible outcome is just not worth potentially ruining a perfectly looking penis.

I have gained .3 Inch in length and .15 in Girth in less than 6 months using an esl40 daily and a dry pump 1 or 2 days a week so it is possible. I have hit a plateau and have not had any gains in 2 months and Im ok with that.

In one study of women done by a group of women, sjowed that female college students on a campus I believe in New Mexico, picked the ideal dildo based out of 30 3 dimensional dildos of random size. They were able to hold and feel them. Their ideal size was like 5.5x5 for a mate and 6.00 x 5.5 for a 1 night stand, oddly enough my friend, you are larger in lenth and Girth.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292007491

lakingsfan35 wrote: You dont see it, the same way my bulimic wife doesnt see her disorder. Alcoholics don\'t see it, drug addicts dont see it, body dysmorphia disorder is no different. I too used to think the same as you. Im much shorter at 6.25 and a bit thinner at 5.85.

Thanks you Lakingsfan35, for understanding. My therapist feels that my thoughts of this are akin to people with bulimia in that sense. That nothing is going to really look right. I feel, against her advice, that the gain in Girth, being just a bit bigger, would be ideal. She thinks that once done it still won\'t be enough. Her thoughts are that I need to focus more on my mental health. Why my perception is this way amd how to rectify that. But I have been doing so much research and spent so much time that, inside I feel that some kind of Girth enhancement is right! Obviously this is not all I talk about with her. I have many other, I\'ll call major, issues that I deal with. But this one I\'ve latched onto because I truly feel it\'s something I can change. I may be wrong. I may be considered terrible for even thinking that. But it\'s just something I feel I need to do, at some point.

Right now I know it won\'t happen. I can barely afford to support my mom and myself (since my dad passed last year) so something as selfish as this will have to wait. But the more I learn and talk about the more I hope it will help and I can move forward and make the rigjt decisions. My therapist will be involved in my mental side.but I was hoping the members here would be able to guide me to the right decision as well.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292007813

smalljay wrote: The fact that you\'re 7x6 and are unhappy literally proves that you won\'t be happy at 7 x 6.25 or 7 x 6.5.


This is very true. Only because of why you\'ve stated your need to seek out penis enlargement.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292008473

I find many of these comments discouraging. Hyperblu\'s experience is his own and it\'s real for him. Haveing had a woman make me feel like I was inadiquate, I can empathize.

I see countless guys on this board who get PMMA, change thier goals because they can forget about thier swollen size the day after the procedure. No one calls them crazy when the go back for round 3 or 4.

I support you Hyper, but read everything you can on this board because there are risks. You\'re not crazy. Most men would take a larger penis if given the chance. Good luck on your journey.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292008488

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Just to chime in - the concept of small is in your head and will remain there even when you are bigger. You might be elated for a few days and then it will look small or average again. You will most likely always feel it is small no matter how big it is.

If PE were risk free, or only slightly risk free, you may want to try it and find out for yourself if what I say applies. Since you are opening yourself up to all sorts of shit from infection, loss of length, irregularities under the skin, hardened grafts, surgery - attempts to correct the issues by the first procedure, which often lead to new issues like scars and scar tissue problems etc. you are asking for a heap of problems. In your head you may have an ideal of what it is going to look like after you do something about it, but I can almost guarantee you that is not the Dick you will end up with - it may be bigger but it will not be the Dick you are imagining.

My advice would be to embrace the fact that you think your Dick is small. Tell yourself you will do something about it but not today. Set a goal for yourself at the gym and then reevaluate in a year. You said you don\'t feel comfortable taking your shirt off at the beach - that is very doable. Take all this energy, go all out and get into shape, lose weight - gain muscle - set a goal and when you get there decide if you still want the PE. If you still do - get it done, maybe even try HA which is the least commitment and is reversible. Most people - guys and girls are way more turned on by someone in shape than someone\'s Dick size.

But, I do hear you and do understand what you are going through - this stuff is all relative - whether your Dick was 3 inches or 7 inches - if you are living in your head with the idea it is inadequate, you are going through the same feelings as the guy with the 3\" Dick. I don\'t sleep with women so I can\'t speak to what it is like to be told your Dick is not big enough - but personally, I have never cared about anyone\'s Dick size I have had sex with but my own - don\'t know what that means, lol.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292009357

Thanks hunkydory for the advice. Where on here should I go for advice about PE without surgery? I\'ve looked at Jelqing or whatever it\'s called online but the research I\'ve seen just is flaky and the results vary from none to insane with nothing really solid. I\'m trying to focus on my body more as well. I\'ve been in the gym 4 times a week since last October and it\'s been helping. I\'m sure this post will end up getting moved. I do appreciate the comments and I\'m trying to process all you guys are saying. I don\'t like the replies in respect to the women however. My gf is.not shallow by any means, and the women, which there are not many, that we have slept with are all friends amd people we know. Some truly are some famtastic peiple who have over the years helped me a lot. Some are people that ive met through my years bowling in europe. Some I\'ve known since high school that apparently we\'re attracted to me. I never found myself to be attractive. So this did help my confidence.

I will try anything suggested if you are all adamant that I avoid PMMA for now. As this seems to be what I am taking from most of your comments. I don\'t know if this will help me, I hope it does, but all I can do is try and see what happens. I just need to be happy with myself at some point and I\'m trying to take steps to get there.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292009777

Focus on getting in shape, you are obese. You probably have another Inch under all that fat. That should be your number priority. A woman is going to like a fit body more that an extra .5in on an already 6in Girth Dick. Plus it\'s gonna look a whole lot bigger to you as well. Check out Thundersplace for no surgical exercises.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292010107

it really doesn t seem like 7 lenght 6 Girth

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292012678

Guys as a group we shouldn\'t put a label on anyone, that can be a trigger for a different issue.

If a guy is heavy calling him obese could trigger other issues, clearly this guy is in pain about his perceived small penis. Calling him obese could trigger an issue about weight and one more thing to obsess about.

Dude your penis is clearly not small.

You dont look obese either, I agree loose the fat pad get a free 3/4 to 1 Inch added to your unit. We have a similar body shape by your picture and thats about how thick mine is, i have 30 extra pounds on me to lose too

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292015937

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His Dick isn\'t small but he is obese. Its not blasphemy to actually give someone the straight dope.

I have a small Dick. If I showed a picture of my Dick to a group of people I wouldn\'t expect them to be like \"Oh wow its so big\" because thats complete nonsense.

Being fat is a choice. Nothing more. If you drink nothing but water and eat steak, eggs, veggies and berries for 6 months and HIIT, you wont be fat anymore. Plain and simple.
Make sprinting a part of your day. Run a few max effort sprints 2x per day. You wont be over-training and its very easy to do them just about anywhere. Read about EPOC.

Keep losing that body fat bro. Your getting there.

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292016667

JD You know your right about that point.

What I hate is just because you dont have an emotional disorder doesnt mean he doesnt have one either.
At your age I would think you would have an ounce or two of tact. Maybe I am wrong and you dont have any tact.

He has already eluded to his insecurities and stated he sees a councilor why in gods green earth would you call or label him obese?

That is just asinine. Then to defend it saying it\'s not slanderous is just as silly. Get a fucking clue man. What people say here can and DOES HAVE AN IMPACT ON OTHER PEOPLE\'S LIVES.

YES I WAS YELLING AT YOU.

And no I\'m not sorry either. A few of you guys words have made him possibly leave this board and maybe make decisions that are harmful.

Yes he pm\'d me that\'s why I\'m so pissed...

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292017387

I totally agree his Dick is perfect and I am straight as an arrow. That\'s my pipe dream Cock on his body. Long thick and straight.

While I agree he is overweight but to say he is obese is just silly.

No matter what I think it\'s his Dick and his unfortunate disposition of thinking he is small.

Personally if that was on my body I would lose another 35 to 40 lbs and hit every willing lady I could. I would be a bigger slut than I already am!

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New, Nervous, Optimistic, but skeptical 8 years 7 months ago #1292017836

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Since when does overweight and obese mean two different things? They are synonyms.

He\'s not happy with his Dick so he wants to make it bigger. His Dick is already big so we were commenting on what he should really work on (his physique) and theres a decent chance it\'ll help how he perceives his Dick. Shrinking his waistline will definitely improve the look of his pubic area (especially when hes looking downwards.) Talk of injecting plastic beads into to your Dick should be the the LAST resort. Every single natural option should be pushed to its very end before you even consider something like PMMA.

I\'m not here to hold hands and sing lullabies. I\'m also not here to be rude (and nothing I said was rude.) I don\'t understand how telling someone the truth is even remotely bad. Its not like I came out and said \"hey you stupid fat fuck\" or something crazy.

I could care less if your \"yelling at me\" or pissed off like you stated above.

We\'ve had a lot if new members show up as of late and their first post is how they\'re about ready to call it quits on life and are all fucked up mentally. And most of the time were confused as to how they even wound up on a small penis board in the first place because their Dick is already big.

Seeing cats like smalljay, brice, SO, with all this invaluable knowledge, spending so much of their time talking people back from the ledge has gotten old.

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