TOPIC: How do I get over her!!!

Hope things are getting better for you New1inch. I can related a short story of my own experience, hope it helps in some way.

I dated a Thai girl for a few years. At first the sex was fairly frequent and normal, but then I became less and less attracted to her sexually and our friendship became more important to me. So when I finally had the courage to tell her that I was not romantically attracted to her anymore, she took it pretty badly. She had become addicted to me and had hoped to get married and start a family, so she got really sad and then angry.

To cut a long story short, I watched her go through all the emotions - at first she told me she would NEVER EVER get back with me and then at one point she started sending me messages saying she hates me. Bear in mind that I had loved her a lot, helped her in her life in many ways, and was a pretty good boyfriend for her. But through all this I kept my distance and most of the time I did not chase her even though I missed her (our friendship). Eventually she started sending me \"nicer\" messages and when I stopped nearly all communication she even started asking me if I had anyone else in my life and hinting at wanting me back!

Fortunately I moved into another relationship quickly as I knew this would ensure the end of my feelings for my ex. Now I am with another Thai girl, younger and more attractive, no commitment, and we fuck like crazed animals several nights a week. I still have a much deeper friendship with my ex, but a sexless relationship was never going to work.

I\'m in my early forties and I can honestly say from at least some level of experience, that women on the whole are fickle creatures. They often say they want a caring man, but in reality they are invariably attracted to simian baboons such as the loud and obnoxious types. They are also highly sexual creatures and will often gravitate towards men who can satisfy them sexually more than they would towards men who are \"kind and gentle\". No good deed goes unpunished and some women will take advantage of the kind and caring types all the while fucking their \"other\" boyfriend\'s brains out.

In general a sexless relationship will never be fulfilling. My advice would be even to stop defining the relationship as that \"ship\" has drowned too many people. If your social circle isn\'t good, go out and do stuff that puts you in/around women who you can meet, preferably not bars and clubs. I recently did two things which caused dramatic changes in my life: I took up yoga and enrolled in an Italian and Thai language course. Each of these new adventures brought me into contact with women. I\'ve made new friends as well as manage to get a new \"casual\" girlfriend.

Good luck New1inch, I hope things are or will soon be looking up in your life.

New1inch wrote: thanks guys... Funny thing is yesterday she called me 4 times at one point we was on te phone for about 35 minutes. I dont get it.. sunday she wanted nothing to do with m now shes calling me. she just called me today about an hour ago but I let the call go to voicemail.

Once a woman puts a guy in the bottom of her list, it is fucking impossible to change her mind no matter what that guy will do, it is a done deal.

she is using her powers over you and she will play with your feelings and fuck you up and mess with your psychy. She is bad news and she is getting her rock off with other guys.

DWD is right! Move on be yourself, forget the games ! I got a feeling if she shows interest you will take her back( you are a big boy so you will do what you want) but are you going to play games with her for the rest of your life ? Not worth it please move on for you!! Match .com or something to look for like minded girls, it is like a menu of women!!

dont bother with her. she is bad news please

thanks guys... Funny thing is yesterday she called me 4 times at one point we was on te phone for about 35 minutes. I dont get it.. sunday she wanted nothing to do with m now shes calling me. she just called me today about an hour ago but I let the call go to voicemail.

yeah what he said

It\'s not that by not contacting her she will get back to you, it\'s that there is someone who will fuck and suck you every night and love you and always want to be with you. That is a fact. There are people who have nothing going for them at all that find love. You need to be open to new people in your life, and when something is broken throw it in the trash and move the hell on. The only way to get over a woman is to get under another. I don\'t want to encourage bad behavior, but if you want to get your confidence back, go after some women you normally wouldn\'t want to be with. Be honest that you\'re not looking for a relationship, that you just want to have fun. Learn that you have options. Learn that you\'re going to be ok regardless of any one woman\'s behavior. Have the experience of what it feels like to have someone want you the way you wanted your ex. You will realize that you are not the worst, not the best, some girls come easily, some are difficult, some like you, some don\'t, and it pretty much has almost nothing to do with you, it\'s all about them.

Move on brother, it\'s over, and it sucked the whole time anyway. You know I\'m right. Go find a chunky girl to make you feel better (yes, I know that\'s absolutely freaking horrible, but sometimes this can be about survival).

if I only got sex once in 11months I\'d have dumped her long ago I\'m guessin she was gettn it some where the whole time

Dance With Dragons wrote: Or alternatively, you could learn to allow women to choose you, and when they do, be your fucking self and don\'t worry about it. If she moves on, move on as well. If you\'re with someone who also cares about you, she won\'t leave, because you will be everything to her that she is to you. In the meantime, enjoy some amazing sex WITH GIRLS THAT LIKE YOU. All this shit about running games on women is horseshit. Just fucking be yourself and don\'t chase after women that aren\'t into you. That\'s a psychological issue, chasing after people that don\'t love you. You\'re a good guy with a lot to offer, respect yourself, and quit chasing.

Your so right DWD... And i fucked up and begged again through text and she never responded.. Im afraid if I dont contact her she\'ll jus forget me. Everywhere on the internet is saying leave her alone and she\'ll contact you but i just dont see that happening.

Or alternatively, you could learn to allow women to choose you, and when they do, be your fucking self and don\'t worry about it. If she moves on, move on as well. If you\'re with someone who also cares about you, she won\'t leave, because you will be everything to her that she is to you. In the meantime, enjoy some amazing sex WITH GIRLS THAT LIKE YOU. All this shit about running games on women is horseshit. Just fucking be yourself and don\'t chase after women that aren\'t into you. That\'s a psychological issue, chasing after people that don\'t love you. You\'re a good guy with a lot to offer, respect yourself, and quit chasing.

I can bet my entire savings that she contacts after a week if you do not contact her first. Don\'t comment on her statuses or pictures on Facebook or text anything! She feels confident that you are going to be there and feels as if she is in control. In all honesty you may need to just move on with your life. It\'ll take some time but you will get over it I promise. Just keep me informed and ill help you as much as I can

DesperateWidth wrote: Bro I\'m going to be honest with you man. I can see why she left you! I went through a similar situation if you don\'t call her or reach out to her in any kind of way she will come back. She\'s going to pretend like she did nothin wrong so just go along with it. Women love dogs and hate guys who are too nice. I can write a book about how to keep a wan in check if I wanted to. It\'s like a instinctive trade you must get accustomed to, but I\'m not about to write all the thoughts I have for this topic it\'s too much to type. I will give you the basics though. Ignore her and when she contacts you act like nothing ever happened! This will confuse her and she will become weary and concerned wether or not you have another woman on the side. Do not I repeat! DO NOT SHOW FEELINGS! The last thing she needs is an emotional man. Just act as if nothing happened and you will see if it benefits you. (This is is only if you truly want her back)

Thanks man. thats the advice I\'ve been reading all over the internet. I blew up her phone for 2 days so i probably messed it up for myself. I wont contact her again.

Bro I\'m going to be honest with you man. I can see why she left you! I went through a similar situation if you don\'t call her or reach out to her in any kind of way she will come back. She\'s going to pretend like she did nothin wrong so just go along with it. Women love dogs and hate guys who are too nice. I can write a book about how to keep a woman in check if I wanted to. It\'s like a instinctive trade you must get accustomed to, but I\'m not about to write all the thoughts I have for this topic it\'s too much to type. I will give you the basics though. Ignore her and when she contacts you act like nothing ever happened! This will confuse her and she will become weary and concerned wether or not you have another woman on the side. Do not I repeat! DO NOT SHOW FEELINGS! The last thing she needs is an emotional man. Just act as if nothing happened and you will see if it benefits you. (This is is only if you truly want her back)

dcpimpin12 wrote: uhhh i hate when guys get pressed over girls... specially since there is a million girls out there. personally i always felt u were too good for that girl. just from what i heard u say about her. u can do so much better with a apple bottom sista or latina for that matter.

Thanks dc but i dont think you completely read WHY im having a hard time.. btw she was indian but had a black girl personality. So beautiful tho.

uhhh i hate when guys get pressed over girls... specially since there is a million girls out there. personally i always felt u were too good for that girl. just from what i heard u say about her. u can do so much better with a apple bottom sista or latina for that matter.