Not sure what you mean by escalating, but approaching a prospective partner, sort of. I will say my gains have made it easier for me to close the deal but I remain a tad shy when it comes to initiation.
The biggest difference for me is no longer having the "mental hang-up of size" which probably affected both my confidence and my willingness to push an interaction towards sex.
If i would theoretically know that my penis is 'perfect' for a specific women (if some theoretical ghost told me) i would feel more much more confident in approaching.
Would it totally help me if i thought all women would react with total amazement at the sight of my cock - totally.
And i experienced this thought of mine when i was in asia. And there i was very excited to show my penis, cause i got good reactions there.
If i would be super-thick and have experience that nearly all girls are hurt by my penis, perhaps i would be more afraid to approach (and instead go into porn? or somth)
Coming to your actual question:
@Approaching now easier after having thicker penis: I guess so far it did not help me.. I went from very small i judge to now 5.4 girth, which i think is definately over average but not 'out of the ordinary'. So, so far i didn't get a lot of 'omg that is great' reactions. I think reactions like this over time would help me approaching. The same with if i would become a multi-millionaire, i guess i would also have an easier time to approach. The same if i would be taller. Or more muscular. Basically: If all of my insecurities would just change in reality, i would be more self-confident)
And perhaps that's just theory and in reality it would be more about the average reaction of the woman i get on approach that determines my fear of it in the future.
@Escalating now easier after having thicker penis: Perhaps a little bit.. not much so far. I could see it changing if i get even bigger, then wanting to show it. And i think a much bigger factor for me is if i am erect - when i am erect i feel much more urge to show my penis to her, when i am not erect i am kinda waiting for the erection.
After reading a lot about 'what is the most joyful size penis for vaginal sex for the average woman (joy vs pain)' ( www.phalloboards.info/forum/lust-love-va...o-be.html#1308710334
) i personally think this size is 5.7 inches girth. Perhaps even 5.6.
Average means that approximately half would prefer it to be 1mm thinner, the other half would prefer it to be 1mm fatter.
And i think 5.7 inches is on one hand very big (top 6% of western average regarding calcsd.info/
), on the other hand not 'omg, what the fuck is that!?' big. Which i think makes sense - i mean i think it makes sense that the average 'best' size for a woman is not totally outlandish. I mean actually the idea that the best size for women is what only the top 6% of men have seems already totally outlandish.
5 inches girth (average girth of the bestselling dildos i think in western countries) would be top 34% of men having that - that seems actually more 'logical' to me.
(5.5 inches girth is top 10% girth..)
I think the size women would prefer to look at and touch with their hand is much bigger than their ideal size they want in their vagina (and even more anal).
'I want to impress women' -
Omg, i remember being 15 and super super shy, real bad social anxiety, and being as tall as the smallest girl in class. And i thought if i just would have a giant penis, i would be self-confident.
And then the idea 'the bigger the better'. Is a pretty simple idea / daydream. That the bigger my penis would be, the more women would be pleasently surprised and in awe and the more joy i could give the women - basically like porn shows. And even in my daydream they would be insanely attracted to the penis + struggle with a bit of pain to get it in + somehow then super-enjoying it. And i think them having pain but also enjoying it maximally already doesn't make sense.
And now with the next round i guess i can achieve what i think is 'ideal size'. So i will have that maxed out. So there will be one less 'i wish i had... then i would be more self-confident' i guess.
Or will it?
Even if my size would be the average of the perfect wished size of all women, then that still i guess would mean that half would like it thinner and half would like it thicker. Each woman stands on it's own and has her own 'perfect dick' which could be much thinner or much fatter than mine.
And my mind can work all things - if before my mind could imagine 'oh, it would be so great if i had the perfect dick, all women would be delighted and i would be super confident' - when having the 'perfect size' my mind could work up all the reasons why this is not the great advantage i thought it was, that for women eg tallness is 20x more important and all kinds of things.
There is also this cracy phenomenon:
A woman telling me 'you have the perfect dick, not to small and not too big' (i remember twice) - i interpret as a kind of a diss. I make it mean that i should be bigger. Or that i am not big. Or that i should be bigger or want to be bigger. Which seems kinda.. insane.
Perhaps one part of it is not trusting women. And in these 2 situations i have no reason at all to not trust them cause they said it unprompted and super-easily just could not have said it.
The other part is - i want to be bigger than they prefer? I guess that's wanting to be dominant.
And logically i want maximal pleasure for the women who have sex with me.
Dream wrote: If i would theoretically know that my penis is 'perfect' for a specific women (if some theoretical ghost told me) i would feel more much more confident in approaching.
I've concluded that if I had my ideal size (7x6 ballpark) + large glans + a true show-er, I could see it elevating my confidence in ways I couldn't act out today. For example, I'd be sure to let the "word out" that Skeptical_One was hung like a horse, and reap whatever benefits came with said-reputation
I am satisfied with my girth today to the extent that size is no longer a hang-up, but I'd be lying if I said I was completely content with my overall package; length, glans, and show-er vs grow-er still bugs me and keeps me from being an all out exhibitionist lol.