I made the mistake of asking a woman I really
like how big her biggest was in Girth. She had a time in her 30s after her second divorce where she met and slept with a bunch of guys but not like huge slut territory. She said her best and longest length guy, the guy she was most attracted to in her life was “huge” and gave her the most orgasms in one sitting. I’m not concerned about this guy. Good for him. She said his angle, probably upward curve, was a factor. Now in her fifties she probably couldn’t have that same experience with any guy given a lower menopausal sex drive. I dont know what it is but I could care less about this guy. He probably had great Girth but I doubt it was extremely girthy. I’m guessing he was a good 8x5.5. I think more about the guy she said had the biggest Girth. This guy with the largest Girth she experienced during a several month affair at 47 during her third marriage. She looked around the room for an object she could compare it too. She passed on a reg sized Aquafina water bottle. I’m assuming because it was too small she thought. This was the first red flag for me that she didn’t know what she was talking about. A water bottle is 7 Inch Girth. She probably couldn’t judge the depth. A water bottle doesn’t look that wide. She couldn’t find anything in the room so she cupped both her hands making a circle. She made what looked like 7inch Girth or more and I was like “really?”. She then made her hands wider to 7.5 or 8 and looked at me like “this?”. I said, “that’s huge” and she said “oh good haha”. Wtf? She’s asking me how big he is?
This is where it gets more murky. The guy broke out all these toys the first time they did it. Maybe he wasn’t sure it was going to be an ongoing affair and he really wanted it to be fun. They were vibrator like toys and one was the c-shaped couples vibrator that cups the clit and also slides in the vagina pressing on the gspot. I never asked her how his Girth alone specifically felt but she said the toys were great and “he was big so that helped”. That’s when I asked her how big. I’m asking her this five years after the affair so how big it was in her memory is a factor.
Let’s further complicate things. Her third husband wasn’t big at all, probably average and she said she never had a problem with his size. She isn’t a size queen, orgasms real easily and is really good and tightening her vaginal muscles. She’s had two c-sections, no vaginal birth. I don’t believe she went around sleeping with a new guy every weekend during her “wild” phase. She said her third husband wore a sleeve once and she wasn’t into it, too big. Let’s assume the sleeve got her husband to 6.5 or 7mseg, how could she adamantly say that was uncomfortable but enjoys this guy where she is miming has a 7.5 Inch Girth? She never said that guy was uncomfortable but she marries a guy who would probably be two inches or less in Girth and she doesn’t have a problem and orgasms easily with him? How in the hell could she fit a couples vibrator and egg vibrator in her vagina and let him also penetrate her with an above 7inch Girth? That’s where it most perplexing. If you look at that toy, it adds a lot of volume and depth.
For all these reasons I don’t believe the size she mimed to me. How off could she be? Is it A LOT more likely the guy was 6.1-6.3 mseg? I haven’t slept with her yet but there’s a real good chance.
I’m currently 6.1mseg and planning on a third round of Ellanse to try and get 6.5. This is so stupid but I wish I was bigger for her for the first time. I might get with her and have the third round soon after, it’s just how it timed out. This could be a blessing because I get to see how she handles my current Girth. My 6.1/6.2 mseg to 6.4/6.5 BEG could be perfect for her. If she says it’s perfect do I believe her and not go through with a third round if she’s taking it well and it doesn’t take too long to slide it Balls deep? She could also really like it but it’s borderline too tight, maybe slight pain, and it takes time to warm her up to take it comfortably. In that case the idea of “perfect” could be more subjective, I will know the idea of him being above 7 was full of shit and the decision to get a third round will be a lot harder. What doesn’t help is that everything I read says it all depends on the vagina and it’s impossible to predict how she’ll take it.
So while I wish I was at 6.4-6.5 currently I guess it’s good to see how she likes my current size. I shouldn’t be letting this one girl take so much of my focus away from things but she is really important to me, we’re really close, and I’m still new to fucking after gaining an Inch from 5.1.
Last edit: by Hyperbol.
Hey man, yes, that's a scenario that many of us find outselves in -- what's the best size for X girl. I have two things to say about this:
First, I don't believe that women can accurately gauge Dick size and have even less confidence that they can remember it accurately. Their standards of measurment are probably going to be way less refined than ours -- they probably don't sit around reading Phalloplasty forums and can't estimate the size of a Cock within a .25 cm margin of error at first glance like we can haha. Also, she may have been trying to escalate what seems to have been a moderately arousing situation. I'm familiar with the types of toys she said she used with the huge dude, and there is no way that you could fit as big of a Dick as she referenced in there too ... unless she was monumentally big. It's a much better bet, in my opinion, that she severly overestimated his size. I would also be willing to bet that when you have sex with her she will deem you the githiest she's ever had by far.
Secondly, If you want that third round I say go for it regardless of any other factors. Trying to hit the right size for a particular woman is like throwing darts in the dark. Do this for yourself first. Also, I'd say that if she can take 6.2 she can take 6.5. It's not like you're going to make a jump to seven. I say keep on the path that you were on without any detours.
That's just my take, anyway. Let us know how it all plays out!
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Something that came to my mind while reading your post was--how long of a relationship do you even want to have with this woman? She's had 3 marriages and admitted to an affair during the 3rd...probably just a few years ago. It's one thing to say you want to have sex with her, but trying to cater your penis to a woman with that kind of history doesn't really make sense, IMHO. I say do what you feel like for yourself and don't get hung up on what she has or hasn't experienced--she's not your wife and there's no guarantee (very little it sounds like) that you'll be with her for the rest of your life.
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@Getsmart I know. Any other girl and I wouldn’t let it consume me this much. She’s 52 and I’m 35 so it’s not a forever thing. I’ve always had a thing for older women. Being able to give my youthful self to someone much older was always a turn on. I think she’s a hot milf with awesome fake tits.
Where it really matters though is the connection we have with our work. We’re working really close on a multi year project we both are passionate about. I go over to her place to work on the weekends. We work a lot. Being able to take this relationship to a sexual level while excelling and progressing in the project is very hot to me.
I’ve been lying to her since before my circumcision that I have a thick cock. I knew that she wouldn’t want to sacrifice our friendship or work if I had a small dick or if it wasn’t good for her. I keep telling her I want to hold off because I want to wait till we our further along in the project so it will be that much more special and so we won’t be fucking and realize our project is lacking. She hasn’t said for sure that she’s in. She’s just expressed a lot of interest. She’s really attracted to me. We flirt a lot and touch each other a lot.
This is so dumb but I think I’m going to wait till after my third round at the end of January. I really wanted to be ready by the first week of Jan. This is going to be a long month. But this is my dick and my choice. I’m going to fuck her when I’M ready. Period. @Jacks10 I totally agree with you but I feel like, for myself, I’d rather go into another level with her. It sounds ridiculous with already 6inch girth, I know. But I feel like this whole experience has been 14 years in the making and why not wait another 4 weeks. I’m doing the minimum 6 weeks between treatments.
I didn’t get the results I wanted with the second round. More on that later in an eventual progress report. I measured the other day with a cialis (I have a mild problem with keeping an erection, virtually no problem getting or repeating one) and I couldn’t get above 6.05meg. It was pretty much 6.0. (I’m 7inch bpel) The Base was 6.6. Every time I measure I have to masturbate because it’s usually been days. I masturbated for probably five minutes. Later that night I woke up with a good erection and measured at 6.25 and 6.3 in one spot. The base was 6.75. I can’t rely on this post sexual activity swelling or whatever it is even though it was sort of relieving to see that. I’ve been reading this type of jump in measurements in several of reports.
I really want to know what her decision is though. It’s killing me. I keep telling her I want to do it but she keeps saying she is unsure. But this is because I keep telling her I want to wait so she hasn’t had to give me a decision. She’s hung up on it affecting our work, it could be deemed as unprofessional, and she’s also been seeing someone. He has no idea and I’m positive he isn’t big.
I think I’m going to flirt and touch her saying I want to take this to the next level and ask if she’s ready so I can get an answer. At that point I’ll tell her I want to wait a bit more. Originally I told her March but I moved the first procedure up a bit so if she’s really aching I don’t think it will matter. I really don’t know what she’s thinking. If she ultimately says no I’ll be really disappointed. I don’t want to spend time playing the field. What’s great about this situation is we can mix work and pleasure, no extra time or effort needed. Otherwise I’d have to spend time, meeting, chatting with, hosting and visiting other girls. And I’d have to have the condom hassle. She is going to be extremely jealous knowing I’m fucking the shit out of these other women when it could have been her.
If this was any other girl my 6.0-6.1 meg would give me all the confidence in the world. I would have no problem at all right now trying to pick up women. There is just something about her where I want the first time to really wow her as much as possible. I feel like we could take our project to the next level because I can finally move on knowing my dick is something that’s touching her in a way she hasn’t felt before. She’d probably love my current girth. I know she would. But I want to go above and beyond and see where the third round can take me. Four weeks isn’t that much longer if we are going to be working together for the next two years or so.
Last edit: by Hyperbol.
Hey man, I hear you about wanting the first time to be something special, but I can't help but think that you may be sending her mixed messages by showing hesitation. Opportunities with women are here today, gone tomorrow, in my experience, and if you don't take them while you have the chance you may never have that chance again. I also feel that the .3" or so Girth increase from the third round would have way less potential of a positive impact than putting things off could have a negative impact. But I'd love to hear about you getting your third round, wowing her, and having this all play out as you planned!
Man! As Jacks10 said you are showing her a mixed signals. Just whip out your Dick and dont be insecure, show her that she is sexy and make it special. Woman dont care about penis size as much as you think. You can be 6.5 EG and insecure boy who lasts 3 minutes in bed or you can be confident man who puts her sexual needs first and fuck her brains out with a 5 Inch Dick. Remember, for women sex is 70% emotion and passion.
I say go for it now, you are massive, already 1 in 1000 in Girth size.