I’m currently single and thinking about fillers but it crossed my mind that in the future, if I decide to keep it my own and not tell my fiancé what I did, what would happen when I want to refill?
Near the reported max of 4 years, how much do you have to let it dissolve before filling again? How gradual is the dissolve? She may not even notice and just attribute it to ED. But I’d have to fake some weekend trip with the guys in order to get it done. And then I’d have to think of some reason or way not to show her my bruised penis during the recovery process and there’d really be no way to hide it if we are living together.
I guess unless you get PMMA with no touch ups while you’re with someone, It’s almost inevitable you’d have to tell your soon to be significant other. If I don’t fill again, she’ll wonder why I got smaller and even if she never mentions it, it would always be in on my mind that she does notice it.
This probably sounds silly to most people and you’re probably saying, “well just tell her”. Yeah that’s probably what would end up happening and she probably won’t care (although I’m sure there are a certain percentage of women who once they find out totally rethink marrying you and keeping it a secret from the beginning was probably the wrong move). This is different than a woman getting a boob job. Although they probably wish it was the case, I don’t see most women who get breast implants worried about “keeping it their own”. The penis is obviously different. It has a much more prominent and recurrent function compared to just giving a newborn milk.
Is there one way to keep it your own or does each man have their own interpretation? Only you knowing seems like the purest form but I’m sure it could also mean your partner knows but it feels natural enough to where it’s both of yours.
The married guys on here had to tell their wives I’m sure but who has gone the longest without telling their significant other?
If it's a serious and long term relationship I'd consider telling her for sure. That was if you need another or fill or have an unexpected issue it's an easy conversation.
One time deals or buddies with benefits I wouldn't bother getting into it.
And it's not different than a lot of women who get implants. Plenty of them don't want it to be obvious to other people (my wife wanted her's to be 'questionable', as in 'too good to be true' as opposed to obviously fake and her co workers never knew they were fake just thought she was legit blessed).
I'd say you should tell her. If you are in it for the long haul, most things should be shared. When I mentioned it to my wife, she supported me in what I wanted. It also helps for an ego boost as the first thing out of her mouth was "why would you want that? You are plenty big!".
I wouldnt worry about telling your long term significant other as if this was a reason for them to leave you or belittle you, they are the wrong person anyway!