TOPIC: Do I try to get her back

I would tell her the truth IF she asks you about your new (to her) Dick. Otherwise just keep things simple for now.

Brock, you\'re getting some good advice here. I\'m partial to HD and camp\'s due to their constructive nature. Having a \"move on\" mentality can be good, especially if the person you\'re dealing with is difficult and not helpful to your life, but there\'s always that lingering feeling of incompleteness. It\'s like walking away from your favorite video game just because you can\'t solve it. In your case, you have a really great opportunity because she\'s clearly interested. Not everyone has that. In fact most people don\'t, so you\'re *really* lucky. Here\'s your chance to handle this in a different way. The Dick size, quite frankly, is bollocks. Like HD says, someone who really likes you is going to put everything else by the wayside and focus on their feelings for you. Be honest with this chick and let her know what the deal is. Good luck with it.

I am thanks - and up to my eyes in ass, lol but I am sure I will settle down. I hope you don\'t write her off if you are still interested in her. (As someone who has seen ALOT of Dick, if I had to pick the wildest most intense sex partners I have had over my life (my favorites), it has to do with how much I was crushing on them, personality, body, kinkiness, willingness to go anywhere in bed, intelligence and humor - you are selling yourself short if you give Dick size too much weight. I know it has been said a million times before I have seen at least 2,000- 3,000 Dick sexually - and 6,000 if I count 20 plus years of going to the gym but those weren\'t hard for the most part, lol. I have seen maybe six to ten 8\" dicks and maybe one 9\" Dick but not sure about that.)

Oh yeah and Hunky you are right on. I\'m better now about laying out all the cards. If I had of really talked to her about it instead of bottling it up for a year- maybe things could of been saved, but I was a tense ball of brewing anger. I just exploded. Never good.
Hope you\'re doing well bud.

Thanks Mike. I think I was pretty normal for sure- until I saw those pics. Never thought once about my dick.. not once. Then I saw those, and I got all weird about it. In my head, I put myself in the room with this guy and the girl that I love and basically watched them figure out a way to fit this dick insider her. It drove me batty thinking of all the compliments she must have gave.
I think I haven\'t been the same since. I have a friend who is a shrink and he said because I have body dysmorphic it hit me harder than most.
I told one friend and he laughed.. he said so what? Wouldn\'t bother me at all -- ughh I wish.

Herbert. I saw pictures. One pic was his arm next to it. It was as thick as his wrist and went from wrist to almost elbow. So I look at her and say, this is a camera trick right? She was like- nope. That\'s what I had to deal with. I didnt have the to ask, but I would guess 10 inches with a 6\" girth. I had never seen anything like it honestly. She said they couldn\'t have regular sex it was so big. I think she was trying to make me feel better- but it just made me feel worse.
I could just stick it in, balls deep - no issue, and they had to use all sorts of tricks just to crowbar it in there.
Mortifying. Embarrassing. Infuriating.

But I\'m living with these mind games.. the guy was before me, it had nothing to do with me. She loved me. I made her orgasm, which he couldn\'t. I gave her multiples which no one could. Shouldn\'t that have been good enough?
I let it change my personality. I wanted attention from other girls because in my head my girl was 1)damaged goods 2) I wasn\'t good enough.

So it\'s a total mind fuck to think you blew up the best thing you ever had over something that really shouldn\'t of effected me if I had a strong constitution and better self esteem.
I wrecked our relationship because my own internal problems.
It\'s a tough pill to swallow.
She didn\'t make it easy on me though- I have to admit. She didn\'t handle it well either when she found out I saw those.
And by the way for those of you just catching up- she DID delete the pics, but I did a restore on her OS to fix the laptop and it brought them back.

What if---- what if I never saw them. Would I have married her?
Well for one thing I would have never been on her helping you crazy fuckers.. so there\'s that silver lining.
Now.. when is my Round 3 !?!?!? hahaha-

Oh, I\'d also like to point out- SEEING the pics was the worst. You can hear a rumor your girl was with a huge guy, but never seeing it you can play it down in your head. I SAW it. I SAW the horror. It was like a murder scene. You just can\'t shake seeing it.

What trips me out Brock is how normal you are. You've had bigorexia most your life, but besides that, and the Dick issues as of recent years, you seem extremely fuckin normal. You even commented on how hardcore BB competitors usually ALWAYS have something pretty off about them. I've always seen this as well.

The best thing I could say is a quote from Tupac lol. I often read it when I'm over analyzing...

'You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could\'ve, would\'ve happened...or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.'

You can either be with her knowing she's fucked monster cocks... or you can't.......seems like the latter.

@brock

Since I\'ve seen her last - 2 rounds with Dr C - he\'s still probably an Inch wider and 4 or 5 inches longer..

Sorry, but unless you have a sub 4\" penis, it\'s unbelievable. Even on LPSG where about 450-500k of accounts and almost 15 years of track record, there\'s no pics with legit measured 9-9.5\" NBPEL. So if you have average 5.5-6.5\" NBPEL, then that guy should be like 10-12\"? It\'s a nonsense. Even Mandingo was 9-9.25\" in his prime years when he was 100% hard and had low body fat level.

As an older guy, I also think Hunky has give you good advice.

Tell her you do indeed love her but you need her help with dealing with your insecurities (Penis size or otherwise) and also tell her if she needs you for anything, you\'ll be there for her as well.

lol

Update, we are meeting to talk next weekend. She told this new guy she couldn\'t have sex with him (supposedly) and I got a txt that she loves me and misses me.

Ironically I got a FB message from a girl I met a few years ago in a gym telling me she\'s single and wanted to hang out. I don\'t believe in God, but there is some force at work here testing me.

Great advice


Also getting more into honest open with people, instead eg trying to be cool.
So much better.
Not yet really doing it so open when dating, i\'ll see.

Thanks, I have a bit of a morbid fascination with seeing how honest I can be with people as I have aged. I am convinced we are all on the same page but for the fact that we keep one conversation in our heads for ourselves, and one is for the public. She probably has 10 thoughts about the look and size of her pussy. If you start talking freely about your dick size issues Brock, or whatever the issue - your dick may not be part of this anymore, unless she is absolutely dense, it will make her feel closer to you. If it still doesn\'t work, you can walk away feeling like you conquered the situation at least. Think of it as flexing a new muscle - know you are into bodybuilding

I think that's great advice Hunk, I think I'd just be too cowardly to be like that.

Here is different advice from my friend Reklaw.

The way I deal with stuff like this is 100% honesty - I just dump all my cards, and I do it for myself so I can walk away if I have to. When I was younger I did the opposite. I never wanted the other person to see my cards as I thought it gave them power over me. Now I say everything - if it doesn\'t work out I feel free as I did my best; when I am at my most confident I am at my most honest so it is in keeping with me putting my best foot forward - even if I am talking about my insecurities or telling someone something about me I am not proud about. It is a paradox but true. It takes more strength to peel the skin off my face and tell someone the truth about what I feel about them or why I acted a certain way - even if it is embarrassing than to hide it and get all up in my head and make the relationship a mental conversation with myself.

I am not sure what she means when she says she is seeing someone but thinks of you - but if you want to find out if there is a chance - ask her. I am also very good at walking away and letting things go, so if I could not, I would want to find out of there was still something there.

Tell her about your issue with the size of the other guy\'s Dick - maybe you have - which translated means that you felt like you would not be able to show her that type of satisfaction in bed; and that you want to be that person for her so you felt defeated. She will only like you more unless she is a horrible person.

Deal with that fact that she is angry about you dating someone else - just means she is jealous and still likes you.

Don\'t do tit for tat, people stop listening.

I am sure there were a ton of other issues, but my rule of thumb for dealing with people is to let them be who they think they are. If you do, they will not be defensive and listen to you.

I am sure there are a few guys thinking Nooooooo!! Horrible advice!!! Don\'t listen to the old gay guy!! But this will take you someplace you have not been before. Either you leave your cards on the table freer so you can walk away, or you get a second chance. Either way, it all becomes less mental and more real so it will be less obsessive.

If you are not doing this now with her, you will be doing it later with someone else as we all come face to face with our shit in life. I\'d take control of the situation and see if you can make it work if you like her - mind you I don\'t have 99.99% of the details, lol.

No way, that's .