Sorry to hear this is the situation. I understand your concern, especially explaining away the unevenness and scars. I haven\'t followed your whole story, but from bits and pieces I can see you have been through various medical procedures. I wish there was an easy answer. I have not tried any form of PE. But may in the next year. Your situation illustrates that there are risks.
Perhaps, that special someone you can share you life and bed with is just around the corner.
Yesterday I asked a good friend (who is a huge man whore in the gay community here in so cal) what he feels the average penis size is and his reply was this \" 4.5 to 5 inches showing and 4.75 Inch Girth.\" Followed up with \" Girth is amazing I\'ll take that any day over length\", then he said \"and I know Cock, I KNOW Cock very well, I\'ve had one Coke can Cock and it was AMAZING!\"
He is an admitted size queen. Funny he doesnt care about length but hoes ( pun intended) for the fattest chubbiest penis he can find, funny how male and female size queens look for the same quality
Nbp...just whatever is visible. This is just eyeballing it against my own...so it\'s not exactly scientific...nor did I have a random sample. So, the reason my goal was 5.25 EG is because that would put me above 50% of guys, at least (maybe 60-80%). And, my \"real\" penis was around 4.25-4.5 so that\'s about the max you can go without it getting too risky and not as firm as you need it for certain activities.
It\'s a double edged sword. Yeah, the sex is everywhere, but it makes relationships much harder to find... and cheating is probably more rampant among gay couples than straights, I would guess.
Also, you can see what being in such a sex-driven culture has done to someone like me, who was insecure to begin with. If my round 3 went ok, then I\'d have been king Cock (even 5.25 EG is pretty big - people!! well, ok I am not dealing with post-pregnancy vaginas...) but when it did not, it was far worse than I could really describe on here psychologically. I\'ve posted a bit of it - but it was much worse to deal with than I can describe. The oozing open wound on my penis for 2 mos ALONE was enough to make me insane. And that was just 1 out of a dozen things going on.
Yeah it seems that gay guys seem to get laid more often than straight guys..... I dunno man the single days were easy for me, the married time it seems the longer we are married the more it gets to be less and less.....
First, Thanks HunkyDory...I almost deleted that post because I thought it as a little to personal, but I am glad I didn\'t and you replied! Going forward, though, I just don\'t know if I will never feel comfortable with the way things are. So, I am getting from your post that you never did regain any comfort with the situation? How old are you now if you don\'t mind me asking? I\'m already in my late 30s so things are certainly slowing down, but the 20-somethings all want a hairy \"daddy\" top - so now that freak show is starting (I AM NOT A DADDY! Hairy, yeah. It\'s fetishized a little - or hated, depending on the homo). Plus - I\'m not into that - they treat you like a dildo...not exactly enjoyable.
In terms of \"relating\" to other gay men...HA HA... hahaha HA. I have a handful of gay friends, but I\'ve found the scene to be incredibly cunty and full of cliques of mostly idiots. I came from a background where I was taught proper social skills and manners in a wealthy suburb & have an extensive education. So, I can\'t relate to dumb superficial trashy queens (I guess I am being a cunt here - but that\'s the truth). Actually it\'s not even an income thing. When I lived in Dublin, I had a ton of gay friends who had no substantial finances - BUT they actually had social skills and a sense of humor - and were so friendly and fun to be around. In America, the gays are atrocious and vapid. Btw, a big % of that sex number is Irish guys...they are the best...ah... I digress... I got rejected from 3 Dublin jobs and am still bitter.
Anyway, I am glad you get what I mean. It\'s just not easy with these homos who will turn you down if you have a freckle on your Dick in the wrong place (and now I have 2 scars, missing skin, uneven skin, and many palpable lumps...plus the scar tissue from an excision on my left side is starting to rise). I mean, how the hell can I feel comfortable in a sexual situation? If the lights are dark enough, that helps - but I like to see what\'s going on. How much do you think is in my head vs. reality - I put some recent pics below. Maybe the last 9 months of hell made me overstate how bad it is now... not sure. Some guys seem to think there is absolutely nothing weird about it. It\'s bizarre.
Interestingly, I also write down (on a scale of 1-10) how good the sex was... and during my period of 63 guys, the score was 6.5...which was the same as in the last 3 months...so that\'s interesting I think. But, I have no idea ahead of time how bad some guys are in bed.
Btw, I have no idea how you had sex with 3000 guys. Jesus. But anyway, for the straight guys reading this - there is no comparison. Women lock up the pussy tight. Men just will do it with anything 1/2 of the time. A blow job is the gay handshake (I had FAR less anal than oral). You know, obviously, there\'s a lot less resistance to anon random sex with 2 men than there would ever be with women. So, don\'t feel \"bad\" about your numbers. They are based on an entirely different situation. I get rejected all the time, or I\'d be at 3000 - I am guessing Hunkydory is hot or had a good body or something. And, did you have a huge penis after the FG? I forgot now exactly what happened...but that\'s like the golden ticket.
I think the average penis is 6 x 5 - give or take 1/4 Inch in length and 1/8th Inch in Girth (I have this all in my spreadsheet too from visual estimations... I got 6.1 x 5.1 for over 200 based on comparing to my own - and my own changed size about 10 times, so it was fairly accurate, I think - yes I am a crazy statistics nerd / Phd).
The silicone scar sheets are called \"Scar Away\" you can find them at CVS or Amazon. I think Mederma is based on some kind of onion extract...unless they have silicone products now too? I used Celacyn gel (Rx) for a while, but then one of my scars started to raise up - and that was very odd since all the research on Celacyn said it would NOT do that... so I lost faith in that product overnight.
This right pic is the situation now (as of a few days ago). The Radiesse is still settling, and it left a tiny lump and injection site Nodule...but it\'s still early. The giant lump can only be camouflaged so much, I think - because the skin on the other side has been excised and it sort of exaggerates the lump. It looked perfect on the injection day but now 2+ weeks have gone by:
I\'m on the fence about whether it looks \"ok\" and I \"saved it\" with all these surgeries after the R3 disaster...or if it looks even more fucked up than if I did nothing at all for the last 9 months (though the rock hard nodules are not something you can feel on the computer). The 9 month old nodules that I never touched are still there. Maybe this mid-line scar will fade...it\'s around 3 mos out now. I think that was the biggest fuckup - having the small biopsy taken out of that area, which never healed and forced a second Removal of more skin...also exaggerating the lump on the other side.
I find that sex has a very short shelf life. I don\'t feel better (or worse) because I had lots of sex a long time ago. Sex is only fun when you are having it, so I really wouldn\'t feel embarrassed - and 21 is nothing age wise - you have your whole life to out do yourself. You may end up having better sex than I ever had with the same person over and over. And like I said, I am not sure how much sex anyone is supposed to have had by the time they are only 21!
Wow. I never knew gay guys had that much sex. Thats nuts. Even a few of my buds that have the total package..Looks, build, penis size and money dont even come close to those numbers and they hit bars/nightclubs almost every weekend picking up chicks.
Guys in general usually have a much larger sexual appetite so when its men seeking men the outcome is going to be a lot of encounters I suppose. I\'m also born and raised in a rural country town, where being gay is like...its just not what you do here. Unsafe enviroment. So I rarely saw guys be open about it and if they were there was extremely slim pickins to choose from so I guess thats probably where my initial thoughts originated.
I\'ve been with around 40 women in my life. I\'m 26. I have pretty much the \"whole package\" besides penis size...otherwise I would undoubtedly be in the triple digit numbers.
HA! Don\'t have a clue, everyone has such completely different looking penises - how they curve, what part is thicker etc, gans size..plus even after all that surgery at 7 x 7.25 I thought I still looked small - that is just my messed up thinking.
No ones sex life is normal, lol. Most straight guys maybe have 100 women in their entire life - some maybe 20-30 or less - at least that is going from my friends. I do understand how a penis fuck up can make sex seem unattainable though. I have had much less sex since my implant went south but part of that is age too. I never wanted to be the old troll that was hitting on guys. I figure I have had sex with about 3,000 people since my teens, but I have lived in NYC where it is super easy to get laid - but maybe only 5-10 in the last 8 years. It started with my \"deformity\" but I kind of eased into not always looking for sex and that is an age thing for me anyways. What I am trying to say is don\'t despair over an imaginary number in your head of what your sex life is supposed to be like, at the same time I hear you. Our whole bodies are sexual - and someone has to have the bigger Dick. If not you, then them. For many years it was me and the first time I had sex recently and it was not me and I was completely thrown, I felt really odd and wasn\'t sure if I was supposed to do something about it - not even sure what that means I still wonder if the guy is looking at my Dick and wondering if it looks odd -which makes me avoid sex somewhat. I have been trying to relate more to guys first and then sex as something more personal, it make whipping out your Dick and feeling like you are at someone\'s mercy in term of judgement much easier. But like I said - I understand what you are saying 100%.
ps Indiano - silicone sheets are for scars you can get them at any CVS or Wallgreens etc. They also make a gel version which stays on better than the sheets - I never stuck with it so I can\'t say if it works. Mederma is the most popular one.