TOPIC: Together 6 months.. No sex.. Whats up?

SOOOOoo we broke up. worst day of my life

Well, if you had to break up, it means she did not understand you/ did not care about you, right?

So, in fact it is the best day of your life. You just saved yourself from what could be years of frustration, pain, anger, sadness. Your life is better than this, you deserve better.

Go out with friends, have a drink or two and rejoice, because you just left someone who, in our own words, was not making you feel you are a man.

My opinion is that we become men, only when the woman we love looks at us like a Man. When you see in her eyes that sparkle, that tenderness, that respect and that love, then you feel totally a man. Women define us. Without this, we are only boys. Some women prefer us that way. My guess is, that woman was like that.
But to become a Man, one does not need another mommy, one needs a Woman.

Good move, mate, and welcome back to the happy side of life

No, we are men because of our achievements in life, nothing to do with women. If you we have a great woman to appreciate what we do, then we will feel even better about ourselves of course. Women do not make men, men make men who they are...My opinion, yours will certainly vary....

Just remember, ALL women truly respect a strong secure man, they may not admit it, but they will always feel it..

We make ourselves, but we are still nothing until a woman designates her as her man, the one she adores. The second step cannot be achieved without the first.
This is a men\'s world, but it would be nothing without a woman.

The idea is in that a real man is a provider and a protector, but he is nothing if there is no one to protect and provide for. In that case, the man is not a man, he is just a creature with a stone axe and a bag full of mammoth meat.

This is what I refer to when I say the woman defines us. Our true nature, the protector, can be achieved only in presence of the protected, therefore the protected defines the protector. Missing that part is missing the essence of the symbiotic, yin-yangesque nature of being a full human.

I have had various Russian girlfriends and they know what to expect from a man, without the BS from the west, feminism etc.
And these women all made me more masculine that I was before because it was what they expected from a man, and seeing how big I was in their eyes made me realize that I was bigger than I thought. They helped me embrace my true nature.

New1Inch, sorry to here your break-up was painful but pleased for you to have moved forward.

I didn\'t want to mention this while you were still with her but my feeling is she may have been getting the sex somewhere else.

I make a point of stating it now so you aren\'t tempted to move backwards and get back together.

Sorry to hear but you deserved better! Now you can move on and find someone better for you!!

Mustang2020 wrote: No, we are men because of our achievements in life, nothing to do with women. If you we have a great woman to appreciate what we do, then we will feel even better about ourselves of course. Women do not make men, men make men who they are...My opinion, yours will certainly vary....

Just remember, ALL women truly respect a strong secure man, they may not admit it, but they will always feel it..

Mustang I know you\'re trying to help but Obsession wasn\'t saying that his opinion is fact. He was just sharing his beliefs, and as we know... each person differs in belief.

You are both wrong and right, depending on who you ask.

What makes a man, is for him to decide. Not society.

\"What makes a man, is for him to decide. Not society\"

Agree 100%....

I was just stating my honest opinion of course and what works for me....

I hope to fly a Christian eagle II soon with an instructor of course

Im so fucking confused right now. She actually broke up with me.. I begged her not to do it. But she said to just be friends. This was yesterday. Today i didnt contact her once. All contact was from her. Then jus now she called me. I texted her that im at the movies and ill call her when i get home. \" I WAS LYING\". SHE FLIPPED THE FUCK OUT!!. I dont know what game she is playing. I begged like a bitch for her to give me a chance. she would not go for it. So Today i took my Facebook page off private, changed my profile pic after 8 months of the same old picture.. AND... i took at least 30-45 minutes to respond back to her texts.. I guess she thought i was gonna sit around and pout \" I DID KINDA\"... But I aint let her see me break.. I bought a course on \'\'how to win your ex girlfriend back\'\' immediately after we broke up.. I know its crazy but i really love this girl and i know i was apart of the reason of her unattraction for me.. BUT BOY!!! This shit WORKS!!! and its only been 24 hours.. we\'re not Facebook friends but she controls her moms FB page so i know she saw the changes on my page.. I added a few hotties also.. But I KNOW for a fact now that shes not over me and I just lost the power and my dominance in the relationship and thats what turned her off.

Now shes saying that shes cheated on me when we was together.... I jus brushed it off. I texted im not even mad.. just disapointed and that i was disgusted. I didnt let her see me sweat. I just stopped responding. At this point im not even sure if I want her back. Im just wondering if shes just telling me she cheated to make me mad.

Tell her its okay because you did the same and now it feels great to get it off your chest. She will ask who it is so be sure you have a name.

Begging a girl !? You need to respect yourself. How can you \"love\" someone who treated you this way? This is not love. Love means respect, understanding, desire to grow together.
I tell you what, girls like that are a dime a dozen. I was with models, executives, barmaids, lawyers, sportswomen, I know a thing or two about dating. I NEVER welcome back a girl who trashed me. It happens, I move on. Last month a girl who broke up with me long time ago came back begging. She said \" you are the only good man I met during the last 10 years\". She wanted me back. No way. She is the one who is sorry.
Your ex is playing with you like a cat with a mouse. If you get back together you will be miserable.

You must be in control of the situation. You need some experience, too. Tell her the fact she broke up is the best thing that happened to you in years. Tell her you did not feel loved and respected, so it is the best for both of you. Tell her you respect her as a human being and have feelings for her, but you don\'t want her back, and you don\'t want be friends either. Tell her \"I wish you a good life\" and leave. Forever. Do not be weak with women. Be effing strong.

The only good course about \'how to get your girlfriend back\" should have 4 words. \"DO NOT. MOVE ON\".
Jesus Christ! You had sex with her 2 times, she kept sex vids of her exes, she cheated on you and made you feel you are not a man, and you want her back??? And you say you love her?
What do you want to be in such a relationship, other than her puppy? If you get back together she will break up again, and you will feel the same pain again. Respect yourself. Move on.

Don\'t lie, don\'t do anything extra, just move on! If you play these games and get her to want you back for what? You gave her everything () she took advantage of it and violated your trust! Make her history!!!! Put your energy into a different girl!! That would be the best in her face anyways, new hotty that is into you. I know you love her but the games you are playing on her now are exactly what she was doing to you and why you were just being drug around by your balls. !!!! You seem to be to good of a guy to put up with this bullshit!!! I can\'t say it enough , no games no nothing, move on and the best way to get the emotions to move on is go get a new women! Good luck, sorry you are going through this but, you are not the only guy! Just be glad you were not married to her and had kids! You got off easy!! Now get out and find a great girl!! I want a new thread of your new relationship and can\'t believe you wasted 6 months on this women!!! Go get em!!!!

New1inch
Completely agree with Mudball and Obsessed.

Move on. In a year or so you will look back at this as a learning experience and she will mean little to you.
Perhaps Right now you want her back, not so much because you love her, but to take the back the hurt she has caused you.

The fact that she has cheated on you is absolutely unforgivable. There is no future in this relationship.
As a a brother on this site, I implore you to love yourself enough to move on. There is a wonderful girl out there waiting to meet you. Now you are free to meet her.

At the very least 1inch, give yourself the opportunity to see how you feel when the intense feelings have subsided.

Right now you have no clear perspective, time is required to move you into greater clarity.

I suggest you don\'t make any public declarations about what you\'re going to do just yet because you may feel differently soon after you make them... there is no rush, stick to your own timetable.