I dont know where to start. I am suffering from severe low confidence cause of my \"size\". On a good Erection I am 6.25 length 5 Girth. But I feel insecure. Its effwcting my life so much that I cant get erections looking at porn or getting it on with a girl.I will get painful night erections, that wake me up. The moment i pick up a ruler to measure the Erection will dissappear.
Even before my insecurities about size, I had always been nervous when i get it on with a new person and specially if tehy are hot. However in the past if it was a mediocre looking chick I dont feel the same pressure. and was able to get hard. but not anymore.Obviously my only cure is to begin my journey towards PE. I doubt therapy will help me. Will my insecurities out my size and anxiety associated with sex disappear over time? Will I ever be able to get to 7.5 by 6. ? Is it ok it i take aids such as viagra for perfomance anxiety right now? I feel like the more experience I get the less anxious i will be come .
zayne wrote: Maybe you set yourself up for defeat by exclusifying your desire to the type of woman who should (expectation) reject you on your size (relative to black men) alone. You are creating the expectation of rejection and symbolically rejecting yourself before the sexual encounter. Conversely, I set myself up for a raging hard-on each time I have sex with an Asian woman because she \'should\' accept me based on my size.(relative to Asian men) alone.
Those two statements are in the best case, both examples of very delusional thinking. Viewed in the worst case, they are racially ignorant statements.
Maybe you set yourself up for defeat by exclusifying your desire to the type of woman who should (expectation) reject you on your size (relative to black men) alone. You are creating the expectation of rejection and symbolically rejecting yourself before the sexual encounter. Conversely, I set myself up for a raging hard-on each time I have sex with an Asian woman because she \'should\' accept me based on my size.(relative to Asian men) alone.
Some questions you could address in psychodynamic based psychotherapy are: Why do I want to reject myself? What in my current life may be reinforcing my desire to avoid a healthy sexual encounter (e.g., intrusive parent, wish to postpone relationship for the sake of xyz, etc.)? Or, what prior relationships or experiences contribute to my current \'dyfunction?\'
Using therapy as a rule-out method, you could then pursue surgery with better certainty that it will help, if it will. In the meantime and during therapy, you might decide to take viagra/Cialis as a temporary solution.
In my case, I will enjoy my symptom.
Edit: I just wanted to add that don\'t think everything has a psychological root. You might have an \'actual and factual\' (TLC -->black women, sorry) underlying medical issue, which warrants your checking that out conclusively. In some cases, your perception might be warranted. For instance, being a very short male, extremely overweight, a minority woman, unattractive, or even a white male may preclude you from attracting an ideal mate or job offer. In those cases, where surgery is an option, it may serve a person well.
I would suggest stop watching porn where you see other guys dicks. Maybe just look at a nude gallery when masturbating. I guarantee that 95% of men that are insecure about their Dick size is caused by porn. At times I know I am but I just brush it off cause I know I shouldnt be. Also maybe start working out (weight lifting) to boost your self esteem.
Coming from a black guy MOST black women unfortunately are concerned about penis size. And being a black man your expected to be large which sucks. Sometimes I do wish I was another race so it will be less pressure. I don\'t know what happened to me. I know for a fact the majority of the men in my family have above average penises. Growing up I though Magnum Condoms was no big deal and normal because that\'s always what I saw my relatives have. To tell you the Truth I never knew no other condom brand existed until I got a little older. Boy was I stupid.. Lol
If I had your length, I\'d be stabbing vags left & right. Visually, a 6.5\" can pass for a 7\" to most female eyes because after all, they are horrible at making size guesses.
To be quite frank, it appears to be a mental thing, entirely. Your size isn\'t a problem. Try waking up with a genuinely small penis one day and then begin contemplating surgical intervention. I highly doubt black women as a whole are so concerned with Dick size, and if that were the case (which I don\'t believe it is), I\'d politely ask you to modify your preferences
Cutting your ligs because of an unfounded fear based on the presumption that black women may not like you is well...just think about it.
Besides, surgery (like lig-cutting) can have undesirable results, including (but not limited to) penile retraction. If I were you, I\'d focus on Erection quality as others have mentioned. Maybe even mild jeqling and manual stretches, nothing too intense. Perhaps look into a Cialis or viagra so that, like Hoddle said, you can actually enjoy a positive sexual experience and move on from this.
Heck I think that\'s all you need is a positive sexual experience to make you realize that there really isn\'t a size issue. just my 2cents
Thanks for the support guys. I am Hanging in there. Hopefully i can conquer the PE world and things can change for good. I am starting stretching and planning on getting my ligs cut by december by Dr. Rosenthal.
Agree with hoddle10. You are on the larger side of \"normal\". The advice given by eqstudent and Quantum are also \"spot-on\". Sure, you will encounter women that would prefer more but they are the minority. You should be proud to wield that banana!
I\'ve never been with a black woman. I\'d try it immediately if I weren\'t married. That said, I cannot state from experience whether they fall into the \"minority\" of women that really enjoy a large penis.
bananas wrote: Even before my insecurities about size, I had always been nervous when i get it on with a new person and specially if tehy are hot. However in the past if it was a mediocre looking chick I dont feel the same pressure. and was able to get hard. but not anymore.
I suggest you talk to someone about your issues. There is nothing wrong with your size in fact your lenght and Girth are above average.I have been with a lot of women, Black, White, Brown, Yellow and everything in between with a penis smaller than yours. I have had no complaints.
It might be a good idea to try viagra/Cialis etc. It should help with erections during sexual encounters. You are easily more than big enough for a large majority of women, so size isn\'t the issue. It\'s your pereception that is the problem and some positive sexual encounters should help with this.