Long time lurker here and recent member with similar questions and concerns as a lot of members on this great forum. I truly think the PE community as a whole is an awesome service men provide for each other.
So, I\'m 38 years old and in great physical shape. 6 ft 180 lbs with less than 10% body fat. I\'m the father of three and 1 year post divorce after 10 years. I have always been self conscious and felt very average to below average. I started manual PE last July and have gained a little bit. I was about 6.75\" by 5.3\" MEG. I\'m now a little over 7\" and 5.6\" MEG. Statistically, I know I\'m above average but still have a very average penis.
I have felt insecure like many here after asking my SO about other guys but have gotten over that for the most part. Now, I just want to be bigger for myself and to have the confidence I\'ve never had before. I know it\'s a little shallow but it is what it is. My SO can take me with ease and due to some experimentation with toys, I know she can easily take 6.5\" Girth and does enjoy it.
So that\'s my initial goal and I know PMMA can easily get me there. I would like to go through 2-3 rounds to achieve this. I\'ve read just about everyone\'s progress thread and scanned the photos. I\'m looking for the pros and cons from those who have gone through it. Any advice is good advice, so please let me know. I\'ll see if I can get some photos up soon.
Justadude wrote: I\'m now a little over 7\" and 5.6\" MEG. Statistically, I know I\'m above average but still have a very average penis.
That\'s a contradiction and quite obviously not true. Nothing average about it. You should comfortably fit into a Magnum (and quite possibly an XL). You are experiencing some penis-dysmorphia and you should make an effort to rid it from your mind.
If you have indeed done your research and followed progress reports, then at least you should know the pros & cons already. My advice would be to have a serious conversation with your significant other, see if this enhancement (and the risks that come with any kind of penis enlargement procedure) are worth it. Also, have you ever thought about having your sigificant other work on \"her end of the bargain?\" There are exercises (and even procedures) at tightening the vaginal orifice, and this isn\'t something she should be embarrassed or ashamed about. It isn\'t fair for your to have to put in the work (as it\'s clear you\'ve done with manual PE exercising), and now the risks associated with Phalloplasty because somehow you feel inadequate with a large penis. You need to talk it out with your significant other and make it a mutual endeavor.
Skeptical One, thank you for the input. I\'ve really enjoyed reading your advice to others on this forum. I said average because from my experience with roughly 50 women, their comments, reactions, and asking even asking a few. My size has never been an issue before PE or after my modest gains. I\'ve never hurt anyone, at least to my knowledge. Also, I meant it from the perspective that I fall within average tolerances. I\'ve never had a girl say I was small, but got the feeling from a few that I was less than they desired. I don\'t disagree that my insecurity is a form of dysmorphia, however I\'ve done tons of research read volumes of info on the subject and base my opinion on everythig as a whole. I\'d love to talk to you or any other member via phone or in person and really have a dialogue on this subject. I know it\'s a big decision and it carries a lot of risks. By the way, I live in the DFW area.
I have spoken to my SO at times and she says I\'m fine. She knows I have feared being inadequate with her due to our conversations. She does do kegels, so I\'d say she does her part. She\'s said Girth is more important than length and has had much bigger but says its not the only thing. Skill trumps size was what she said to me the last time we talked about it. I think talking about my concerns with her has been good but it\'s also a very fine line not to go overboard. Too much and you run the risk of making her feel bad about being open with you.
Another thing I\'d like to share from my experience and reading other peoples stories considering enlargement is this. Regardless of your size, whether bigger or smaller than \"average\" we all have different perceptions and experiences when it comes to sex. For the record, only 2 girls have ever said I was big. Does that mean anything? I\'m not sure. I\'ve heard of guys considersbly smaller than me get comments on being big.
My main goal with enlargement is to feel better about myself. Like many others here I\'m sure at one point or another has let this absolutely dominate their life. I\'m tired of feeling this way and letting this lack of confidence in myself dominate my life.
Also, with regards to pros and cons-I should have been more precise and those that have had PMMA and gained an Inch or so. Are you glad you did it and the reasoning behind your response. I\'d like your opinion based on your results both physically and mentally. Please don\'t look at my Pre-op stats and suggest I shouldn\'t consider PMMA. I\'m really wanting guys input based solely on their experience.
Also, I called and it looks like I could get in as soon as April 3rd. I\'m very excited about doing this soon.