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Need help. 2 years 2 months ago #1308697477

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Need help. 2 years 2 months ago #1308697478

On this forum, the remarkable story you've just told is about as unremarkable as it gets!

First things first, the size issue is easily taken care of these days. But, the key to that being a success, is that you need to get your head right and understand that your size almost certainly isn't the root cause of your issue's. If you don't do that, you'll follow a relatively typical path around here, which is to have a procedure, get to a perfectly decent size, realize that all your problems haven't suddenly vanished and start convincing yourself you need yet more size and go back for more and more until you have a weird looking Dick or run into more serious complications.

Your length and Girth are actually both perfectly average, it's just they are both towards the lower end of normal, so the combination of two lower end of normal dimensions, makes it, overall, a slightly below average penis, especially given your height. 1 round of filler should give you a very decent penis size and if you still have issues with anxiety and keep getting rejected after that, then you have to be honest with yourself and recognize that you are sub consciously looking for reasons why you don't have to challenge yourself to improve the parts of your life where you feel as if you've failed. It's much easier to believe that you can't have a long term relationship and a family etc, because girls find your penis size unsatisfactory, than down to things such as failing to emotionally connect with women or to show the strength and confidence that they find appealing in men etc.

Scrotal webbing can be taken of. I think both Dr Solomon and Dr Carney perform this procedure frequently. Dr Carney has some very nice results posted on here actually. As for Girth, if I were in your shoes, I'd personally look into either PMMA or Ellanse. From what I've seen over the last decade, if performed conservatively, by experienced practitioners, results are usually natural feeling and looking, with a relatively low serious complication rate. In my opinion, the key to success, is to have reasonable goals, to find an experienced Dr and most importantly, actually be a good candidate in terms of how positively a successful procedure could impact your life. From the little you've told us, you do sound like a guy who could potentially greatly benefit from a successful procedure. I've seen many a guys life transformed from a good PE procedure, which is why I've often describe those in the medical community, who dismiss the validity of these procedures, as "ignorant." But, at the same time,you have to aware that it's not going to be some magic pill, that makes all of your anxiety etc disappear.

Welcome to the forum. Read as much as you can and good luck with whatever you decide to do.

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Need help. 2 years 2 months ago #1308697483

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Need help. 2 years 2 months ago #1308697484

Hi moemoe, even though I lurk here periodically, I haven’t posted in years because I’m an satisfied long term Elist patient, and either right or wrong I don’t want my experiences to influence anyone else to get the implant since when it goes wrong, it goes terribly wrong, so I lurk. But I felt compelled to reply after reading your post, because I’ve seen so many like it over the years on this forum, it breaks my heart and I feel terrible that so many men have had their lives ruined or damaged due to penis insecurities.

No matter what size you can make your penis via surgical, or non-surgical methods I fear you’re not going to be happy in the end, and most likely not a better lover. As someone in their early 50’s who has slept with well over 100 different women before I ever discovered PE I have enough experience to say that penis size is not the end all and be all. Growing up my older sister’s friends would sit around and gossip about guys and what I would hear is things like, “He’s so cute, but he’s a terrible kisser”, or “He has a really big dick, but he has no idea how to use it”. (Real quotes by the way). For me, I was well aware that I wasn’t packing, and like you I was a bigger athletic sized person, so the penis I did have looked even tinier than if it was on someone much smaller. But in the 1980’s during my teenage years there wasn’t anything a man could do about it, so I was determined that no woman would ever tell their girlfriends that I was bad at this or that when it came to sex. Regardless of my penis, I was determined they were going to tell their friends that I was a wonderful lover, if not the best. You need to learn how to make love and do it confidently with whatever God gave you downstairs. Women can pick up on your signals/body language and will respond accordingly, both physically and more importantly mentally.

You state that you came fast the first two times you had sex with the Dominican girl, and that she stopped you before you came during the third encounter. You said that you assumed it was because of your lack of size. If her biggest concern was the size of your penis there wouldn’t have been a second or third time. I’ll guarantee you she cut you off because you were not giving her what she desired, a confident lover who could give her an orgasm, or at the very least strong enough sensations that the sexual encounter would leave her satisfied. Your lack of confidence with the opposite sex has to be a turn-off for any woman. Oh, and by the way don’t ever tell a woman before you’re about to bed her that you have a small penis. Number one, your penis is not that small and number two, all that tells her is that you lack confidence and this is about to be unsatisfying and a waste of her time. Maybe if you had a micropenis you might want to say something ahead of time, but even then I don’t know if that would be the right decision or not.

To boost my sexual confidence I did things like studied the female body, their erogenous zones and their sexual organs. (Took a class my first year of community college called Human Sexuality, studied a book called the “Joys of Sex”, Book 1 & 2 and “Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex but Was Afraid to Ask”). I learned how their bodies worked, and then as I would lay in bed at night I would visualize myself as a woman and say to myself, “If I had this body and these sexual organs, what would make me feel good during sex, what would I like, how hard would I like it, and if my lover had two hands, a mouth, a tongue and a penis what would I like them to do with each one, and more importantly what could they do with all of them at the same time to help me orgasm”? This gave me a good foundation to work off of. Then I decided that since not all women are the same there was no shame in asking my lovers what do they like, and how do they like it. This led to many intimate conversations that got us into a great head space, built up wonderful sexual tension, which led to even better love making. Of all the woman I ever slept with, not one ever mentioned my penis, if fact my penis size never entered any conversation. They would tell me how amazing the sex was, or question how did I know to do this or that and they almost always returned for more. Quite often I would get the opportunity to sleep with their friends because the girl would talk about me to them, and not a single one of them ever told me the conversation concerned the size of my penis, only my love making skills.

I didn’t get my penis enlarged 11 years ago because I was lacking sexual self-confidence, and I didn’t get sexual self-confidence through my penis. That’s the headspace you and others I hope can get to, to be confident in your skills as a lover regardless of your penis. When women are polled about sex, usually at the top of the list of turn-ons is self-confidence, humor, kindness or intelligence. Even when some women mention a body part it’s usually eyes, or chest, etc. Penis size is almost never near top of any list. If you want to get well please seek professional counseling, then learn to be a good and confident lover, that’s when your life can change for the better. If you decide that penis enlargement is going to be part of that wellness equation then like Hoddle said, there are options like scrotal web reduction and PMMA or HA fillers now available.

I know you and some of the readers will wonder why if I have such sexual confidence did I get my penis enlarged. I got my penis enlarged long after I married the love of my life, and will hopefully never have to take another lover. To be honest she was against it, but she also understood why I wanted it. I wanted it because even though when erect I was only average, my real issue was when I was flaccid. When flaccid I looked like I had a baby’s dick, and if it knew it was about to be on display such as a doctor’s visit or a gym shower it would shrivel up even further causing me public embarrassment.

I truly hope something I posted here helps you and others like you, and spurs you to get professional help so you never again think to end your life before your time.

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Need help. 2 years 2 months ago #1308697485

Wow, great response above mine! I think everything above is true. Also you dont have a small penis. You are statistically average. Remember there is about 50% of the population smaller than you. Check out sizemeup.com if you need a little boost.

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Need help. 2 years 2 months ago #1308697490

moemoe wrote:

hoddle10 wrote: .


I appreciate the support and you taking the time to respond. I really do believe my size is the root cause of my issues though. Not to say I wouldn’t have issues had I been born with a different penis but I know a lot of my issues are directly related to women not really giving me a chance because of my size. Now sure I should be able to overcome that issue as many men do but I guess I’m just more sensitive than your average man idk. I would love for a women to just accept me as I am and I’m sure we could make the best of it once we get our chemistry right. I rather not have to change who I am. The only solution i see, as I said in my initial post, is to be upfront about my size before sex comes into play. If I can’t find it in me to do that then I think I’ll just continue to have the same experience over and over again.

Oh and I would kill for the size that some men on here who have had enhancement were born with so I guess it really is a mental thing.

Another thing is I don’t make a lot of money (I have good credit though) so procedures for webbing and Girth enhancement not to mention travel and hotel expenses would really set me back so I don’t know how realistic it is for me to have both procedures done. I can’t believe how expensive that web Removal is by the way.


If penis size is at the root of your issues, then how do you explain all the men with smaller penises who are very successful with women? My best friend is 6ft 4" tall and has a below average penis and women adore him. At times, over the years, I've found myself resenting him, as really hot girls literally humiliate themselves over him. He has been on medication for OCD for many years and it's effected both his sex drive and ability to get an erection. Yet still girls fall in love with. People like him, must have something you don't, in the same way guys with bigger penises have something you don't. What I'm saying is, there have to be other things you can work on to make your relationships with women more successful, other than penis size. I'm not saying don't get a PE, but simply that I very much doubt it's the reason you experience rejection. It's much more likely that you radiate insecurity in the bedroom, because of your penis size and this makes women feel uncomfortable around you when things turn sexual. So whilst it is the penis size that is making you feel insecure, it's not that which is bothering girls, but rather the vibe they pick up from you.

Women love confidence and you don't sound at all confident. I know it's true as, unless I'm tipsy, I'm absolute hopeless with women and it's because I'm way too shy and reserved. But once I've had a couple of drinks, my success rate is so much higher. I'm not suggesting you should turn to alcohol or anything crazy like that, but simply saying that, from my own experience, I know the cliche of women getting off on confidence is true. It's not just in the pick up stage though, but also and even more importantly, in the bedroom. They can sense how you feel and if you are lacking self assurance sexually, it will make them feel awkward and uncomfortable. And trust me, I've done my fair share of that as well and totally understand why you feel better with hookers, as there is no sense of expectation and so on. I'm really confident that the women you sleep with can feel your anxiety and it turns them off.

I actually think there is a good chance that a bit more size down there will give you a boost, but, as I said previously, it's not a magic pill and you need to be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking, the more size you gain, the more will women will respond positively to you. A penis enlargement will just be a boost, there will still be other things you need to work on. The most obvious of which is that you don't earn much money. You can't blame that on your penis size can you? And let's be honest, whether they care to admit it or not, women like financially successful guys. I bet half the women that have rejected you would have been a lot more forgiving were you rich! I know men will say things like they don't want women to want them for their money, but get real, we'd still be living in caves if men hadn't discovered women like someone who can provide for them. Women are turned on by success. Of course I'm not expecting you to suddenly go out and start earning a lot of money, but simply pointing out there are other ways by which you can get women to want to be with you and be more tolerant of your bedroom failings. I'm just saying, there is no way it's all about penis size.

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