Aviator, I\'ve lived in the OC for most my life and boy have things changed. I\'m in my 30s so I\'ve seen the changing evolution from Laguna to Westminster, and for the better part of southern California in general.
I would first have to assess what are you looking for?
I would also have to judge what is a 4 vs a 9 in your opinion? (We have a saying in California called 49ers, women who look like 4s with attitudes of 9s. Stay clear of the Bay area!)
Are you into taboo lifestyles? (we have lots of kink communities)
Or are you looking for a kosher/traditional style bf/gf type of connection?
The OC has many pockets of different ethnicities, most of my local friends are latino, Vietnamese, & Korean. They met their significant other in graduate school, undergrad, couple failed marriages of people they met at church, & their co-workers. I\'ve been on a sabbatical of sorts, and I guess in my \"man-whore\" days, the early days of tinder, fetlife, and even okcupid worked all the time if all I needed was sex. But as the internet hookup scene changed around the similar timeframe of when women\'s attitudes changed (around 2009), it really became bad during this last political election period. Both men and women are now openly displaying attention seeking behavior. Just by the wording of how you described yourself image I perceive a little societal influence there.
Now if you explore the online hookup or app scene, girls just want to tease you, they want validation, sexting and I think largely to some degree, many just like sending nude pics or vids of themselves + the aforementioned sexting. They get off on the attention vs actually meeting. There are many ACE type of women (adverse childhood experiences) and I think society with the help of technology and social media has social engineered a huge sample size of cluster B personality types.
I use to easily pick up girls in my early 20s in downtown Fullerton, do the typical buy them booze and invite them back to my place and we screw. I don\'t know if that culture or social behavior still exists there, but if it does be prepared to waste money on drinks on average looking girls who think they are unique because they have a BA or go to junior college (self labeled scholars). I endured like many of us, a lot of bullshit and we still do in order to get laid. There are scenes out there were getting laid is super easy, but if you want to talk to these women, be prepared to loose some brain cells.
Now, if you want quality over quantity, join the club. I thought I met someone who was a find of the century, until after dating her for many months I realize her lack of maturity, and the fact i was evolving into a role model figure for her vs a equal. Plus there was layers of bullshit to this woman that you only find out till months later. Anyways now, I have a few friends who are academics (anglo decent) and engineers (Indian) , they\'ve tried out eharmony and have had a 50/50 success rate, but i honestly believe they\'re making lots of compromises and no body is finding what we want. I tried eharmony, right around the time frame of my early PMMA rounds, and met 3 cuties, 2 keepers, and 1 of the keepers was a missed opportunity because all i wanted to do was fuck at the time. i probably guarantee with 99.999% of the PMMA brethren all we want to do is fuck after our rounds. I wasn\'t ready for a long term committed relationship or marriage. She was. But now, the sire who I am today can handle what was available to me years earlier. This gent wants what I could of had, a cute blue eyed brunette who wanted the homestead kind of life.
So i go back to one of my original questions, \"what are you looking for?\"
Now, anecdotally tinder has been a great tool to find women worth dating in Baja Mexico. Tijuana, Mexicali, and Ensenada girls want a lover, a bf, and emotional + financial support, but most know how to cook, they have culture, and they know the way to a man\'s
is his penis. I\'m of the opinion that there are too many divas, too many entitled women, too many indecisive cluster Bs, and women with no corazon or culture in America, namely what\'s close to me (all of SoCal). Everybody has their opinion, every man has been edited to some degree by the social engineering of our society, but I\'ve been known to resist change and swim against current. By the way, don\'t swim along Newport against current you might bump into a dolphin that looks like a shark or vice versa.
I\'ve personally been away from the forum for the last 2 years. I notice we have many new faces, and many familiar faces. I\'ve read a few posts and feel sad that the social engineering of our society and the bullshit we endure from single women has reinforced some of our insecurities. I came back from Espana early this year and I was so happy to see that women in Malaga and Granada are not fundamental feminist nazis (FFN). Corazon y pasion exists in parts of Spain. My advice while you are exploring LA, OC, and SD county, please continue to travel. Continue to grow as a man, appreciate your hobbies, appreciate our mountains, the outdoors etc. Your individual time, your time hanging out with your friends and colleagues over some Korean BBQ or ACYE style sushi. Vent with them, it\'s not always healthy to vent over a computer screen. Those are two things we do right in SoCal, we do Mexican food pretty decent too.
Make friends like the legendary Huell Howser, but more importantly just have fun. Don\'t think OC is a nirvana of worthy women, its ok, I just think it\'s gotten a little worse. Have fun exploring sir!