TOPIC: Embarrassed of ugly penis, Should I mention it

Ok I\'ve been talking to this new girl for a while now. I\'ve always been insecure about my penis. Before it was the size, and now that I\'m gaining I\'m still feeling insecure. I\'m starting to realize the my insecurities are not coming mainly from my size but the actual \"LOOK\" of my penis. See, I was born with hyperspadius. So I had to have surgery as a baby. I didn\'t even know all this until I saw my medical records as a teen. I always knew that my Dick was a little weird but I haven\'t been watching a lot of porn yet so I had nothing to compare it to. From the surgery it left me with scarring underneath my shaft. My glands are shorter than most men and the shape is different. Also my penile opening is much wider than a normal guy. From the top it looks like a normal Dick. But the bottom is all screwed up.

My question is should I mention this to her or should I just whip it out and hope for the best. She\'s been with a few guys so she has a lot to compare to. I just wish it was a magic wand to just make it look normal. Also to add my penis glands don\'t seem to wrap completely around my shaft so the underneath looks kinda flat and wiered. As some know I\'ve been doing manual PE but lately I\'ve been thinking what\'s the point? At the end of the day even if bigger my Dick will still be ugly and I still wouldn\'t want anyone to see it. I just wish it was pretty. My Dick looks so ugly in photos. Pics below so you\'ll see what I\'m talking about.

If you hadn\'t have said so, I wouldn\'t have known there was anything different about your penis. But now, when I look closely I can see some very mild abnormality. The same will be true for women. If you don\'t mention it, they wont notice or say anything. If you say something they will start looking for the issues you\'ve mentioned.

Also most people have something they consider different or abnormal about their penis. You only have to look at the photos here to see they really do come in all different shapes and sizes.

In truth your just looks pretty normal. Yes there are some difference on the glans, but then there are some guys who have lots of scrotal webbing, some have no Frenulum whilst others do, some are Circumcised, others aren\'t, some people have uneven colored shaft skin and so on.

Hey man, dicks look weird in general. If this bugs you a ton just throw it to her with the lights off. If you like this chick alot and you think it will eventually have an effect on your relationship with her explain it. If she doesn\'t like you for who you are and is stuck on a few imperfections then she doesnt deserve you anyway bro

I assume you meant hypospadias. Newer techniques are available now including Repair techniques. If you don\'t have any issues (awkward stream of urine, leakage other than urethra, etc) I suggest leaving it alone. It looks fine. All penises look different. It\'s not ugly by any means. If the aesthetic results from your hypospadias correction bother you to the point that it affects your relations with women, you should look at revisionary surgery options. My penis isn\'t going to win a \"modeling\" competition any time soon either brother. It looks like it belongs on a black man. Your unit appears to function well and function is what is most important. We all want a huge \"designer\" penis but there are many men that would love to have what you already do. You\'re also a nice guy, intelligent and have a keen sense of humor. Any girl worth a shit won\'t give a damn as long as it works and brings her pleasure. Just my 2'.

Thanks guys.. Your advice really put me at ease. When I look on here I pay more attention to other things that i doubt anyone else pay attention to. I usually look at the smoothness of the shaft and how the skin for the most part look completely even all the way around... I describe mines as a roadmap penis..lol.. I just to get out of my head a little and focus on pleasing and technique. I always make sure lights are dim or off because of the look of it.

@M7.. thanks!! I just want a black man penis!!! lol ... Your right my penis function completely well. As I stated before I never even know I had this procedure until looking at my health records as a teen and discovered it on my own. No problems with it except the size and look

I hoping to get PMMA 1 day when satisfied with my length. Im just afraid that because of the procedure I had as a baby I wont be qualified for PMMA or My Dick will look silly with more Girth because of the small glans. Im already 5 inched MEG and almost 6 at the base. My shaft is almost towering my glans. Anymore size may make it look fake. IDK.. Jus think I was cursed..lol.. Can\'t change it though so I might as well make the best of it.

I think I wont mention it to her though. If she dont say anything, then I wont neither.

Absolutely don\'t tell her anything. Dim the lights and work on her first and get her all warmed up and if ok with you, go for penetration and no BJ at this time. The first impressions are most lasting. Once she is into your love making and into you, the shape of your penis does not matter for most regular reasonable women. We are much more obsessed with our penis esthetics than women are. Look at the vagina, it is ugly to them more than our penises to us, but guess what? We love their vaginas to no end no matter what it looks like as long as it is tight and moist LOL....

My penis is the not the most perfect looking thanks to the elist silicone implant that caused Pyronie\'s curvuture and shortening, and then I went ahead and got PMMA. But my ladies now love it to no end due to, and this is what they tell me, my personality, techniques and yes the massive Girth.

Good luck!

I hope you can let this go, I do not pretend to know what anyone goes through here but... The more you are obsessed with things the more unhealthy or would most likely be a major turn off. So don\'t mention a thing about it and just be confident in you! It is like a beautiful women always complaining about minor imperfections gets old. Forget about your Dick and knock her socks off ! Good luck!

I feel I should just let it go. When we do have sex, if she dont like it I\'ll just move on. Just wish I didnt have this \"curse\". I\'d take a smaller Dick and day if I could make it look more normal/better.

Hi newinch,I can understand the position you are in to some degree,its similar to some of us guys who have large hard lumps from PMMA.i have bigger Girth bit there is no hiding the big lump on one side.so I\'m thinking of just taking it slow then explain the filler situation and see how they respond.same with your situation,surely any reasonable wouldnt be too bothered,after all they have \'flaws\' too.If not move on to someone else.I do believe someone\'s confidence/personality/connection will override a bit of scarring.all the best.