I disagree a bit with CHLuke: yes it\'s good to go in (no pun intended) with the intention of enjoyment, mainly for yourself (as even if you pursue the enjoyment of your partner, in the end, in most cases, this is to please and satisfy yourself -- if not to ensure that your partner will continue to return the favor; then to simply gain satisfaction that you have satisfied another -- that is still an internal joy). However, I disagree with the notion you should absolutely not care about others\' thoughts and at the same time take up a disguise that emulates or exudes confidence. One can almost say that the two are nearly contradictory (if you care nothing about why others think, then why disguise anything?).
Also, I disagree that over-cognition is necessarily a bad thing. Thinking -- like language, music, and even technology -- is a broad array of tools, and a mind is what you make of it. While thinking too much in the wrong track can be detrimental & self-destructive; other sorts of thinking, like occasionally stopping to ask yourself \"why?,\" and reasoning out why another individual can\'t use your size as if it were any sort of offense to them (you don\'t owe anyone, man or woman, a grandiose penis, lol, unless you falsely lead them to believe you have one), nor is it something you should apologize for or be ashamed of if you are confident in yourself and your abilities as a whole. Cognition and confidence are far from being mutually exclusive.
In fact, you yourself refer to cognitive faith in your analysis of John Wayne, several others, and their confidence-displaying disguises.
And as for Skeptical One, while I agree with most of what you say, and almost entirely with your first post, I
BEG to differ with the latter of the second. You still seem to insist that size (along with other external \'nice-to-haves\') are a necessary condition for getting laid, or at the very least make it highly more probable. I actually differ with you. Women, like men, are constantly trying to balance their wish to have a good time against their own self-confidence issues and hangups. Add that in with the feeling of seeming \"easy\" or \"like a slut\" if they set no \"standards\" in the guys they share themselves with, and you have the situation that many young men find themselves in as a result. In the end, whether you get laid by any one of them is more about them (their emotional state, their current dating situation, a boyfriend they may want to get back at, where their guards are set, etc., etc.) than it is about you.
Finally, you are wrong in that you were rational in allowing the
Girth or the length of one of your organs to determine your confidence and willingness to approach and socialize with women. That is one of the fundamental flaws of many men\'s judgment. Simply put, your penis size has nothing to do with you sharing a good time with someone, be it a man or a woman. It is irrational to allow one to preclude one from the other.
Now don\'t get me wrong -- I am not here to bash surgery. In fact I am primarily here to consider the safest & best
Phalloplasty option for myself (when that option presents itself). But to assume that size is somehow a determining factor of whether one can have one or several satisfying long or short term sexual relationships, is at best a subtle misperception, and at worst a poorly placed marketing gimmick.