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TOPIC: do having a small size effect you talking to women?

do having a small size effect you talking to women? 13 years 4 months ago #1269556642

Oh, and a continuation to the actual thread question:
Yes. Especially pre-op. As many may already know, I\'m probably the smallest reporting size on this forum (and most PE forums for that matter) that isn\'t classified as micro (in other words, significantly under-average).
The notable (perceived) inadequacy effected my overall confidence, which in effect is the most important characteristic to a woman. Fortunately, my confidence in my intellect, sociability, and modest looks allowed me to compensate enough to manage situations with females and prospects...however my size inevitably kept me from sealing the deal. You can only imagine what it must be like to your friends, family, and peers when you are a so-called \"great guy,\" who seems to be either too picky or too unsure of himself. The concerns others might have that you are gay (or perhaps even small) compound the insecurity even more. Mind you, I don\'t consider being gay a bad or negative thing, I am just stating that it is a problem if someone perceives you to be something that you aren\'t.
I myself happen to be a lover. I have mastered foreplay due to my (original) lack in size. I have learned that there are ways to enjoy sex without ample size. However, I can\'t help but feel that there was more to be desired. And for someone, like myself, who isn\'t satisfied until his partner is satisfied, the lack in size was a glaring issue. It was more than just locker room/swimming pool mockery, it was the need to provide my mate the complete package in bed...
As for the topic at hand, I can say that I\'m slowly coming out of the bubble. I hope to gain an Inch from a combination of manual PE & fat pad reduction. Then I hope to achieve my maximum Girth potential (in other words, the most Girth I can get without making my penis look ridiculous). Couple this with my beach body goals, I can\'t help but thing I\'ll be getting laid in no time.

I can concede that size has effected my confidence, and in turn my ability to converse with women... but in my case I feel that it was (arguably) rational. (err or maybe not who knows lol).

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do having a small size effect you talking to women? 13 years 4 months ago #1269557981

Greetings A-TEAM, this one is for NEW1INCH,

from a 24 year old\'s perspective, if you\'re not interested in starting a long-term relationship, but like having sex with lots of women, this phrase is going to be helpful, \"you are there to satisfy YOUR urges FIRST\", with easy~loose~emotionally confused females you maximize your confidence factor by not giving a damb what they think of you. Think of John Wayne, in one of his movies, he pops out of no where in the hood of night in some western town unannounced, accidently runs into a beautiful saloon girl who recognizes his voice, he then tells her i have some business to mend to, but when i\'m done we\'ll continue where we left off. Confidence takes many disguises, it isn\'t the same disguise for every man, but if you look at the great ones: Gregory peck, Audie Murphy, Humphry bogart, charles bronson, or Perrnel Roberts to name a few, they all had their disguises. I learned my disguise, by getting out there during school breaks or when i wasn\'t working, i traveled, explored, & went to hell and back sometimes. In a puritan world, if you want that confidence gents, you have to care less about what people think of you and care more about what you want from yourself. Alpha-beta-gamma personalities, that stereo-typing is all bullshit, you learn the lesson of confidence, and women & men will follow you.

ps- an over-cognitive mind could mind fuck you. just keep it simple, its when your not doing something with your life that you become too self absorbed in thought. Confidence in balance is a powerful aphrodisiac

~Coolhandluke

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do having a small size effect you talking to women? 13 years 4 months ago #1269559748

Well said coolhand!
And I agree with the over-cognitive mind... I deal with it all the time and am slowly but surely learning the concept of balance.

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do having a small size effect you talking to women? 13 years 4 months ago #1269560266

I disagree a bit with CHLuke: yes it\'s good to go in (no pun intended) with the intention of enjoyment, mainly for yourself (as even if you pursue the enjoyment of your partner, in the end, in most cases, this is to please and satisfy yourself -- if not to ensure that your partner will continue to return the favor; then to simply gain satisfaction that you have satisfied another -- that is still an internal joy). However, I disagree with the notion you should absolutely not care about others\' thoughts and at the same time take up a disguise that emulates or exudes confidence. One can almost say that the two are nearly contradictory (if you care nothing about why others think, then why disguise anything?).
Also, I disagree that over-cognition is necessarily a bad thing. Thinking -- like language, music, and even technology -- is a broad array of tools, and a mind is what you make of it. While thinking too much in the wrong track can be detrimental & self-destructive; other sorts of thinking, like occasionally stopping to ask yourself \"why?,\" and reasoning out why another individual can\'t use your size as if it were any sort of offense to them (you don\'t owe anyone, man or woman, a grandiose penis, lol, unless you falsely lead them to believe you have one), nor is it something you should apologize for or be ashamed of if you are confident in yourself and your abilities as a whole. Cognition and confidence are far from being mutually exclusive.
In fact, you yourself refer to cognitive faith in your analysis of John Wayne, several others, and their confidence-displaying disguises.
And as for Skeptical One, while I agree with most of what you say, and almost entirely with your first post, I BEG to differ with the latter of the second. You still seem to insist that size (along with other external \'nice-to-haves\') are a necessary condition for getting laid, or at the very least make it highly more probable. I actually differ with you. Women, like men, are constantly trying to balance their wish to have a good time against their own self-confidence issues and hangups. Add that in with the feeling of seeming \"easy\" or \"like a slut\" if they set no \"standards\" in the guys they share themselves with, and you have the situation that many young men find themselves in as a result. In the end, whether you get laid by any one of them is more about them (their emotional state, their current dating situation, a boyfriend they may want to get back at, where their guards are set, etc., etc.) than it is about you.
Finally, you are wrong in that you were rational in allowing the Girth or the length of one of your organs to determine your confidence and willingness to approach and socialize with women. That is one of the fundamental flaws of many men\'s judgment. Simply put, your penis size has nothing to do with you sharing a good time with someone, be it a man or a woman. It is irrational to allow one to preclude one from the other.
Now don\'t get me wrong -- I am not here to bash surgery. In fact I am primarily here to consider the safest & best Phalloplasty option for myself (when that option presents itself). But to assume that size is somehow a determining factor of whether one can have one or several satisfying long or short term sexual relationships, is at best a subtle misperception, and at worst a poorly placed marketing gimmick.

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do having a small size effect you talking to women? 13 years 4 months ago #1269560652

@hotboy
Well, I think I should have been more clear on how I perceived penis size in relationship to my ability to get laid. Like all aspects related to confidence, I think when we improve those aspects, we also (naturally) improve our confidence. When I used to have a beach body, I was many times more confident than I am now (a few pounds later). I can\'t help but to think that going from a 4.0\" x 3.5\" to something better would also improve my confidence... there is definitely a correlation, though I will concede that \"causation,\" is still up for debate.
I would agree that we all can get hung (no pun intended) up on size issues as it relates to our approach to sex and seeking out partners.

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do having a small size effect you talking to women? 13 years 4 months ago #1271837645

I always had problems talking to women because of how small my Flaccid penis was.............I would always wear long shirts to cover up my smallness.
I was always told that I am a great looking guy with a superb smile, teeth very white & would have hot women hit on me & I would flirt with them but thats as far as I would ever take it. If I was packaged the right way on my eyes, I could have had sex with some of the hottest girls..........
I did have sex with some hot chicks in my 20\'s & 30\'s but was too shy in my teens...........
I had a really good looking girl that I was flirting with for a long time tell me, she didnt care if my penis was 4 or 5 inches, she just wanted to have some fun because she was really into me emotionally but I just couldnt have sex with her thinking she would go & tell her friends.......She even lost like 20 pounds for me & her body looked awesome..............damn the small penis syndrome, grr........

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