TOPIC: At 31 years , I think I am ready

To put together the story of my life in a few words will be difficult , especially for someone like me who has never discussed it with anyone. But I feel I am ready to take the first step.
Who am I?
31 years old man with a small penis. Really small. I have the situation known as a buried penis. Flaccid dimensions are laughable. I have never been able to retract the Foreskin (the term is Phimosis) and I have some penescrotal webbing to complete the picture.
I don\'t have a lot of sexual experience because its turned psychological now.

Surprisingly, I have managed to maintain a somewhat normal social life, dated a few women, somehow managed to avoid the topic of sex without them knowing the real deal and then when faced with the eventuality of answering them about the lack of sex in the relationship, left them with various excuses.

I have a great career, a great job and a great family. But I don\'t feel I am normal. I don\'t feel like a person sometimes. I have managed to avoid getting into depression because I have managed to train my mind to believe things that are not true.

After decades of wanting to do something about it, but not being able to out of sheer lack of belief or hope, I decided to show my situation to 3 surgeons in my country.

At some point , I will decide if I really want to go ahead and have some surgical operation done. While I have nothing to lose, I fear getting it might make me more miserable because a false glimmer of hope is not what I need.
I am not sure if there is anybody here with the same story as me, but if there are, I would love to hear from you.

Any updates speed1234?

Can you tell us little more about your surgical experience?

Can\'t believe its been weeks already since my last post. So many things have changed.
--I moved back to the US for good.
--I broke up with the girl I had started seeing (didnt have sex mind you)
--What else.. oh yeah.. had PE surgery..results have been bad...experienced more loss than gain. Can\'t keep my mind off what could\'ve been.

DO i want to get my old Dick back? i dont know. it had issues of its own. but it gave me pleasure when i wanted. This one, does even feel like its mine

Sorry for keeping it so vague. I\'ll publish more details later. Some photos too. Just cant get myself to do it at this point.

Who is doing your surgery? To be honest your retraction looks pretty normal.

Attaching some pics. Notice the one where I am sitting and my penis completely retracts. Embarrassed posting it here. Its a little normal when I stand. But still pretty shabby.

Erect Girth and length is around 5x5.
Didn\'t even feel like measuring the Flaccid state and it changes so much too.

The last few days have been ..... long and slow.
I have decided to get surgery. Its happening soon. I am at a point where I wasnt prepared to read from anyone that I shouldnt get it.
I have taken before photos.
I\'ll come back in a few days when I am mentally and physically ready to post. Hopefully, things will get better.

Can we see some pics

All ,
Thank you for taking the time to respond.

First off, the Erect stats. I think on a good day, the Erect length and circumference are both around 4.5\".

Surgical options prescribed have been Circumcision + Webbing + Ligament cutting + correction of the buried penis .

Girth enhancement is an option too, but I can\'t make up my mind if I should go for it just yet.

Mustang , what makes you skeptical about lig cutting?

Flaccid gains are most important to me right now. If I can never pull the pants down, I am never going to use whatever I have in the Erect state.
Any ideas or feedback?

Be extra careful with lig cutting, it may get you into trouble. Read a lot and take your time, you are 31 yo and you have time on your side plus the PE industry is getting a bit better albeit slowly...Good luck!

I shoudl rephrase what i meant. I am not saying jump into PMMA or anything. but surgical procedures such as burried penis correction webbing correction and even lig cutting have a low complication rate. Worse case scenario you might not get the gains you thought you would .. and thats what i meant is dont think too much about a safe procedure. just select a doctor wisely, that has a lot of experience. What country do u live in?

Hi Speed,
Very brave of you to share your thoughts and feelings. You are certainly not the only one: I have the same problems and conditions (buried and webbed penis), although my Flaccid size is not \'laughable\' small, as you call yours.
My exact reason to become a member of this forum, is that I\'ve reached the point that I only have to call the surgeon to have it done. The funny thing now is, that doubts are starting to come in...Is it really necessary? It all works fine now; what if something goes wrong? Due to the liposuction of the pubic area a piece of skin under my belly needs to be removed, which will leave me with a 15 cm scar... Do I really want that?
Please feel free to share with me as much as you want!Cheers!

Speed1234 thanks for sharing with us. Which surgeons have you consulted with and what surgical options have they each presented to you? Surgery for buried penis can be really effective and there are a number of things that can be done. I wouldn\'t make a decision before posting more details here, as there is a good chance some of our members might have some valuable input.
Make sure your surgeon is very experienced and is able to provide you with lots of before and after photos. This is the kind of surgery many know how to do and will claim they can do, but each case will have it\'s own individual characteristics so it\'s important to go to a guy who does these surgeries on a regular basis and can tailor the surgery for your individuals needs, rather than a surgeon who just has a set procedure for buried penis and does it once in a while.
Make sure to take plenty of before, during (ie regularly through the recovery phase) and after photos. Given what you\'ve been through you may feel that you could never imagine posting you photos of your penis on a public forum, but the change from the type of surgery you are considering can be quite dramatic, so you may feel very differently post op. You might find yourself compelled to do so in order to help others who find themselves in your situation. Even if you don\'t ever feel like posting them online, you\'ll regret not having a photo diary of your experiences, as at times recovery can be challenging, so it\'s good to be able to look at where you started and how far you\'ve come.

Sped1234Thank you for sharing your very personal story with the board.You are still a relatively young man and there are things you can do to improve this situation.Could I ask what your Erect stats are ?You are among friends. Messageman

Life is too short to be living with what ifs? We are on this planet might as well make the best of it. I say go for it. Besides its not hte Flaccid measurements that matter, its the Erect measurements.

My 12 year old son has his but it retracts in all the way. Not ever 1/2 in sticks out. Mine was bad but not like his. I wish you luck, I am sure that you will get gains when healed. You are almost exactly where I was a year ago. I got great help from Hanging and loosing weight