I think many men make the mistake of approaching women like "items" or "pets", almost.
Like "If I put this type of oil in my car will it improve performance?"
A singular thing such as "women" is not real. No two women are the same! They are actually people, and have all kinds of different preferences. Some can never come from just penetration. Some can only come from penetration. Some can never come.
Of course, there are many many women who enjoy a very thick penis. But then there are also a lot of women who just don't. It can hurt.
But then, which one is more common? Maybe the former, but if you have a wife or a steady partner, what difference does that make? Even if the former is more common, that doesn't mean YOUR woman is like that.
If you're a single guy just having many casual encounters with a lot of different women, then I'd say that probably being on the girthier side is the place to be. But many people on this forum seem to have some bizarre preferences where they love it if a woman actually can't take their
Dick because it hurts. It's mind boggling to me - to each their own, I guess.